Thanks for the add-on, the woman who came up positive contracted it with her second partner. (Turns out the guy she got it from got it from their first partner, knew him for years prior to this).

That said, I entered a loving relationship with her after this all happened and we were together for ~3 years, and while she was worried at first I never cared, and I never even contracted it because we avoided direct physical contact of the area during flare-ups as you said.

It isn't something to have gut wrenching fear about like some do, but it is always best to be responsible and make sure any partners are aware prior.