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what do you do when you feel doubts?
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That's a great question, I probably should have an answer to that
lol, it's totally legitimate if you don't have a "good" answer to the question, but if you experience those doubt moments, you are probably doing something when they happen ๐
Usually I completely disassociate from the concept of gender, it works somewhat but doesn't help with dysphoria
I think I dissociated from gender before transitioning, and it was my primary coping strategy. I didn't think I had any dysphoria before transitioning, but felt lots of dysphoria once I started paying attention to gender.
I would describe myself as anti-gender before, because gender felt actively painful to me. I wouldn't be surprised if I would have identified as "agender" before, though of course now I look back and just see how strong that dissociation and denial were as coping strategies, so of course I was antagonistic against "gender".