So, my endocrinology intake is swiftly approaching, in November. I'm excited and anxious. They would at least start me on testosterone blockers, right? Or is it more waiting?

I know I will still have to shave , until I have laser hair removal, but, will I be able to go longer than 10 hours without feeling stubble?

Will I be able to go more than one day without shaving my body hair without looking at my chest and arms in disgust?

I know YMMV, but I was just hoping things will start getting easier soon, like maintenance.

Ive watched videos and I always end up getting really overwealmed, its also cost. Like the thrift stores in my area arnt very decent, and you can't try on anything anymore but I'm still on a budget. I kinda want to avoid shein, cause sizing was strange, and child labor. How stuff fits is also kinda hard since I don't really have hips and given I started puberty at like 12 I doubt they will ever exist on my body. I have some basic fem T shirts and Jeans I need to wear a belt which ive gotten gendered correctly a few times while wearing.

I'm starting to hit a bit of a wall with voice training lately. I can find my resonance, I can adjust the positioning of my vocal cords and where my voice is coming from. I occasionally pass on the phone, and I work all day over the phone so I do get pretty regular indirect feedback in terms of how my voice gets me gendered.

But I am very much struggling with pitch and maintaining consistent pitch. It's just not happening and even when everything else is perfect my pitch will slip, and then I'll get misgendered. I cant seem to find a specific pitch and comfortably rest there. I'm also 8 years in at this point, I've been doing voice training for a long time and I just think when it comes down to it I might be one of the women for whom training alone just isn't enough.

I've done a lot of research into glottoplasty and find myself in a financial position where I could hypothetically afford it. Most accounts from people who've had the procedure seem to indicate they've had great results with it, but there's a lot of people who swear that it'll basically render me mute if I get it done. Its minimally invasive and the surgeon I'm considering has good rapport with his patients and I'm confident he'd do great. But on the whole I'm hesitating a little bit and curious what other people think. I do IT work that involves using the phone quite a bit, but if I had to take time off work for a little while that would almost certainly be fine. I don't sing and really don't have any concerns with regard to vocal range either.

Are you considering vocal feminization surgery? Why or why not? Have you experienced similar things with regards to voice training, or has training alone been enough for you?

Feel free to chime in with whatever thoughts you have on the operation or voice training in general.

Hope everyone is doing well!

I’m doing fantastic. I’m not working right now, and being a full time home maker, so I’ve been spending some free time completing offers and game challenges for some extra cash on the side, managed to get enough to buy another 9 months of HRT as an emergency cushion so I’ve been less anxious about the lack of personal cash flow.

This past week I took the lady I’m taking care of out for lunch, and when the cashier asked for a name for the order, she dead named me. I hadn’t told her to that point, so I wasn’t mad, but it just got me wrong and made me feel ill.

Pushed me to go ahead and have that talk with everyone else in the household.

That seems to be going well, now my partner is calling me Jessie at home, and it feels nice. Everyone else will need some reminding I’m sure but it’s nice to have that support, and I’m hoping I don’t have to deal with that again for a while.

I decided to take some temporary hair dye we had and see if I could get some color into the new hair growth I’ve had since starting my hair treatment. It didn’t take well on the blonde new hairs, so it looks objectively AWFUL and was upsetting me last night, but this morning when I woke up I could see in the mirror the color catching light so I could see what I had up there. Made me smile, can’t wait to see how much better it gets for me.

Everything is a waiting game. My maternal Great Grandma used to tell me “Ya has to has patience!”, but I don’t wanna.

How has all the other gorgeous ladies here been?

XOXO 💋

At my last telehealth appointment, I asked my provider if I could switch to injections after reading some advice on here. Taking the strain off of my liver seems like it can only be a good thing!

I am scheduled for an instructional appointment tomorrow morning to learn how to administer them properly. Nervous, but looking forward to the change!

I don't ever really see myself having a decent job. FFS feels like Its off the table.

I got this (hopefully) randomly suggested article by my news app, and it's honestly along some lines I've been trying to reconcile myself.

Note: This is all just a random idea I had a few days ago. I am mostly curious about what others think of it. I know it's not gonna be actually implemented anywhere. I wish it was that easy lol

~~Many people here have probably had someone complain to them that "They/Them pronouns are so confusing" while the same person accepts "you" as singular and plural~~.* Well, I propose a partial fix for both. Not in natural language, but at the very least text, because both of those bug me personally, even if just a little. I know any language that sees any actual use is going to be imperfect, but that doesn't stop me from sharing random ideas on the internet.

* Edit: Irrelevant and off-topic. Just keeping it here for archival(?) purposes.

First some background info:

In German, there's actually a similar problem, at least when spoken. It is, however, fixed in writing.

• "sie" -> "she"
• "Sie" -> "you" (singular, formal)
• "ihnen" -> "them"
• "Ihnen" -> "you" (singular, formal, different grammatical case)

Spot the difference? It's the capital S and I. So, why not take after the British Museum and steal things from a foreign ~~country~~ language?

How to fix this, according to a random person on the internet:

• "They/Them" -> Singular person with neutral pronouns
• "they/them" -> Multiple people

And while we're at it, we can also do

• "You" -> The person you are talking to
• "you" -> A group of people, or often more importantly, a general you

The Problem:

Sentences. The first letter of a sentence is always capitalized, which brings confusion back. This is a glaring weak spot, but since this idea is never going to be used anyways, I can't be bothered to actually find a good workaround. If You have any ideas though, feel free to share them.

So, what do you think? Is this idea fundamentally stupid, because everything is just fine as it is, or could a solution to imprecise pronouns actually be handy, even if this one is far from perfect?

Hey y'all. So I am thinking of starting the process of getting my name changed. However there is one point I am kind of confused about.

I was born in WA, but currently live in CA. Do I need to change my birth certificate in WA before I can do anything else? Or can I just start the process in CA?

Something fun I just learned about recently I thought I'd share here.

I thought some of you may enjoy playing with this. I sure did.

It took me a minute to figure it out, but it's awesome because more artistic people can draw the parts and everyone else can pic a picture and dress or decorate it however.

One of the ones I did:

I just wanted to share that you don't have to be "traditionally beautiful" to be considered a woman. I am a woman. I am aware I don't conform to society's vision of a woman. But I am a woman.

So, I live in the UK and I'm on some probably endless waiting list to start talking to people about things, but I am also financially privileged and if I can use that to expedite my process in some way, that would improve my quality of life tenfold.

My cry for help, is, what can I do privately? How do I do it safely? Are there any "official" private sources for anything?

I am interested in UK centric advice for (but not limited to):

• voice feminisation
• HRT in an environment where I can regularly have someone with degrees in this shit tell me that my body is doing the right things
• related to the above, fertility support (in the scenario I want to have kids biologically)
• diagnosis of gender dysphoria
• any other "superficial" feminzation
• I don't want to sexually transition, I'm keeping the tool

Thanks in advance, blahaj lemmy

I'm looking into purchasing a wig (Ive had human pattern baldness since age 20 unfortunately) and I'm feeling a taaaaad overwhelmed with the amount of options and I'm terrified of ordering one and it's low quality.

I wanna spend the money to get something human hair, lace front, and dark dark brown — but not super super expensive ! that said do you girls have any site recommendations or general advice?

!I got better for a little while, but I realized I still look awful, dieiting seems kinda out of reach and also I feel like hrt can't fix me. I'm broke and getting off hrt is likely a good idea, tonight I'm gonna stop taking hrt. I'm gonna repost this on some truscum sunreddit cause while I disagree with them on nearly everything I feel like I do look creepy and I don't need love I deserve to be put in my place

https://imgur.com/a/S3LcFxO

as you can clearly see the first two are most accurate the others are angles and tricks

I'm a liar

!<

Howdy, sorry for the stupid, and probably easily-resolvable question, but, after starting the procedures for my transition, I have been feeling somewhat alive again, and kinda want to fix, and mantain my body in a decent state. Do you all have some tips you can share regarding self care before hrt that could help, I'm basically, quite, ignorant on this stuff, and I'm pretty sure even the way I shave is horribly wrong, aha.

For some context I really want to loose weight and get rid of some pre hrt male fat I still have, I currently only eat one meal a day but from my thinking since they all seem to have some level of surgar I'm actually gaining weight even though I've only eating once that day. I'm not really sure but I know exercise will help and gym membership seems semi cheap.

I am more than a month into HRT, and I have been seeing some small changes over the month but not experiencing that ache people talk about at all. I was hoping that perhaps I would be immune and it would never start, but nope lol.

Seems like it is here to stay!

I know I have posted herd before and many have already seen my photos and said I had mental health issues but I'm still kinds convinced T hit me way too hard. I'm convinced that any doctor should of looked at me and said "no I'm sorry I don't think hrt will be able to help you" on top of that I was and still am very overweight I'm convinced I really should detranstion for the sake of the community, I would need to loose at least 200 pounds to know for sure. I would likely need go get off hrt cause I'm not only tall but also fat

I'd like to welcome @ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone to the transfem moderation team! 🤗 Ada is one of the admins of the lemmy.blahaj.zone instance and a very active member of the transfem community. She has already been providing me with assistance in running the community and answering any questions that I have, she's a perfect fit for our second moderator.

The addition of Ada to our moderation team helps maintain the safety of our community and our readiness for more complex moderation issues. Please as always report any rule breaking you see and we will address it as soon as possible.

Thank you so much Ada for joining the moderation team! 😄

Any general advice? Don't try x, or definitely look into y? Be aware of Z?

I keep saying my deadname in my head, this kinda started a bit after a family gathering where I heard my deadname a ton. This was in may and sometimes I will just say my deadname in my head and it feels wrong, it also kinda makes my real name feel a little wrong, even though I know it's not and I like the name skylar

I'll be having facial feminization surgery on my lower third of my face. Let me know if you have any questions or just want to chat.
Edit: I am now squirrel. 🥜

Idk if I've been drinking too much or what, but I had this movie on for extra stim while trying to get shit done and this scene just hit me hard. 😭

Like, fuck..

Holy shit! Halloween can be a fucking femme playground! This is my first one realized, but lately I've been thinking this could be a great time to try some spooky polishes publicly and it not be too unusual. But then again, I was at the store recently and saw the makeup, devil, and cat headband & tail sets and 💡

I don't typically go to Halloween parties(or any parties. Not invited 😓) but holy shit, I just realized the season is coming up to go however far or further and (to some extent) nobody will give a shit!