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9 inspiring photos to help you transition from female to male
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Thanks. Yeah trans men get so much shit, I don't even wanna get into it... What would you consider a traditional male space? The only place I can think of is the gym, but women go there too.
Either way... I don't really go out much though, tbh. I'm mostly a loner, just go to work, read books, play video games. Sometimes go out to a concert if I have the money. I don't have any IRL friends.
In my experience, guys just see me as some gay femboy instead of a trans man. I don't really come out unless it becomes relevant or I meet another queer person.
Nah, not at all, some trans men do identify as femboys or even twinks. Personally I don't get too into specific labels like that but I don't care if others see me that way. It can actually be the opposite of dysphoric, because the transphobic types will assume I'm a man who's trying to be femme or transitioning to a woman and emphatically call me sir like to remind me I'm a man, lol.
Sometimes openly, yeah, I've had a coworker ask me if I was gay after weeks of like clearly wanting to say something. But usually it's more subtle, like in the way some guy in a group will talk to the other guys different from the way I get spoken to, or they share looks between each other like "this fuckin guy, eh." Or they'll joke about how I might need help lifting something because of how lanky I am. I'm obviously the bookish nerdy type not into sports and going to the gym, and I don't have a big build.
In my experience the treatment isn't that bad. It's like any time you're out among people you don't know, people are just polite. Maybe if I was on a sports team or went to the gym a lot it'd be different.