my gf is dating me but she’s obsessed with dating guys. she writes love letters to them and stuff like that and acts super guilty when i end up finding out.

she even talks about dating these guys. should i break up?

Genuine question.

this was a while ago, so i forgot the sub, but the mod of it permabanned me for speaking russian because “he and his friends didn’t like my culture.” i ranted about this in another sub, but i quickly became shadowbanned. eventually, i was permabanned from Reddit as i apparently violated a rule and harassed a guy? I didn’t even put the guys username, nor do I remember it—it was definitely generated by Reddit tho.

of course, it’s been a while ago, so I don’t want anyone to actually do anything, but this is more of a genuine question rather than “I have his username and all his details: I want him banned.”

i’m bi. so is my gf katya.

however, katya is also a HUGE right-wing Trump supporter. she literally follows him on every single account and says stuff like “no one cares abt lgbt rights” which is an odd thing to say as a bi person.

Katya is also very nice to me and very much in love with me, though, despite our differing opinions, and I know she’d be offended if I questioned them.

so i (13f) am friends with nadya (14f). i desire a connection with her and i’ve noticed i get jealous when nadya does things like touch her attachment’s arm (she develops attachments).

i want someone to connect with me like that. lately, i’ve been having dreams about her. nadya has insomnia, so in one, she called me on the phone and told me (after i told her to get a doctor’s appointment) that she slept a full 8 hours and thanked me for the advice.

nadya gives me eye contact, listens to me, and is very sweet to me in my dreams. i even went to her house, which i notice is a common dream i have with people i’m “in love” with.

i haven’t been to her house in two years because she’s so busy. i can’t believe i feel THIS way about the girl i used to be jealous of. (she used to be rude to ppl and i was jealous bc she dated my crush at the time.)

when nadya tells HER she loves her, it makes me kinda wish she was like that w me but idk if i just desire connection or what

I had a girlfriend who was usually quite nice, but she mostly had internalized homophobia, thought she was better than everyone else and "one of the good ones".

when someone says “i’m not homophobic, i have an lgbt friend”, she was the friend in question.

anyway, at least we broke up, because she was seeing a guy behind my back, leaving my texts on read, and seeing him? so i think she cheated, even tho she “apologized”.

she also seemed edgy and “hated” everything. yeahhhhh…

my friend nicole (14f) has a gf rachel (13f). because she’s never been told she snores, she thinks she doesn’t. however, nicole told me it’s hard for her to sleep because rachel snores.

lately, nicole’s been able to sleep through it and the snoring seems to be quieter (rachel had a cold but she snores w/o cold too) but apparently it’s not normal to snore as an eighth grader?

even if it no longer bothers nicole, should she tell rachel that she snores ?

my other friend said his sister used to snore and she found out it was sleep apnea.

as a teenager, i know about two people (ages 13 and 14) who snore. usually, i don’t come across this, so i was wondering how common/normal it is.

people have told me that snoring at that age is not normal and a sign of sleep apnea.

(Post translated from russian)

I (age 13) have a friend, lisa (age 14). lisa is usually nice, but she has mood swings and anger issues.

these mood swings usually happen in sports, but not just sports.

lisa thinks she is better than everyone else and is not responsible for her actions/mistakes.

lisa doesn't hit the volleyball over the net. instead she hits it behind her, but blames me for it because "i didn't catch it". she also expects people to do things for her so she can make fun of them.

She has made me cry a few times and yelled at me, insulting me and stuff, but only in sports. otherwise she's mostly kind.

she often takes girls very seriously and won't laugh at their jokes, but will laugh at similar jokes from boys. she often says "ahahahahahaha! you're so funny!" whenever a boy says something.

I just find it weird, but my friend said: "she's kind of like 'pick me'".

lisa often says all the girls are mean to her, so i sympathize with her.

lisa is serious and bossy and likes to tell me what to do (not rude).

is this bad ? should i try to help and how can i help ? why does my friend say lisa is being a "pick-me" ?

(sorry, i know portuguese but prefer russian— which i learn— for practice)

my english is not good but i can’t find russian community on lemmy for this, so i guess you can translate

if you can’t, i will just post in english with translator

i live in the united states, we are in the eighth grade.

my (13 years old, boy/girl, genderfluid) friend nadya (14 years old, girl) often has mood swings. sometimes nadya is happy, and someone can be her best friend.

nadya seems to get attached to someone. then she suddenly gets angry with this person and may even think that he is weird. although she acts irritated, she says that everything is fine and does not say why she is irritated.

nadya was attached to lisa (14 years old) for some time, and then she began to avoid her because she thought lisa was weird. she got mad and didn’t like lisa.

i’m sure i was her platonic crush at one point.

now nadya is crushing on lisa again. sometimes nadya is calm with us, other times she gets depressed and only wants to talk to lisa.

no one else is a big deal and she acts passive aggressive towards them unless they are lisa. she avoids us and skips classes to hang out with lisa under the guise of “i had to go to the bathroom”.

she doesn’t want to be anywhere without her, just like her other crushes. she also acts like lisa is basically perfect and gets mad at any criticism of her because it ruins her day.

my mom says it sounds like a mental disorder, although i’m not sure and can’t diagnose it.

i’m worried. how can i help?

(sometimes my English not very good because I do from memory, I recommend you use translator for post, english speakers. I write in other language because of this. I learn russian and speak portuguese and prefer russian for practice, sorry)

у меня есть подруга, ее зовут надя (14 лет).

надя часто говорит раздраженным голосом и она выглядит подавленной.

если честно, я думаю, что между ней и Лизой что-то происходит. в последнее время Надя избегает своих друзей (нас), чтобы пообщаться с лизой.

она любит и хочет проводить время только с лизой и даже флиртует с ней.

когда наша подруга стефания принимает это за шутку и в шутку заигрывает с надей, Надя говорит, что хочет делать это только с лизой.

надя хочет проводить время только с лизой и раздражается, когда не может, а также раздражается на всех остальных.

надя прогуливает уроки, чтобы потусоваться с лизой, и чувствует себя неловко, когда с ними тусуется другая подруга.

ее «одержимость» (как говорит лиза) беспокоит меня, и это заставляет меня надеяться, что с ними обоими все будет в порядке.

лиза, как мне кажется, тоже увлечена надей, но я не думаю, что надя должна заводить отношения, пока ее чувства не остынут.

должен ли я поговорить с надей ? что мне сказать ?

(If you don't like the idea of using a translator/you can't use it, then I'll just use a translator to speak perfect English next time.)