i get the point, but both of the posts there are things that are not only believably true, but i do believe them to some extent, and am only disappointed that they're fake headlines

organizing work, mutual aid, and unionizing work is the new work of seeing and being seen. hell, give it long enough and it might usurp churches as third places

idk, i pretty much exclusively call myself and the boy i have a crush on boys (both over 30). there's something carefree and soft about it that i enjoy. probably because i feel young and carefree with him, haha

for myself, it's usually a bit too serious to call myself a man, although sometimes i call myself a trans(gender) man for clarity, and i do identify as a man

it was my hope that explaining things the way i had would expose OP's contradictory behavior, although i would certainly hear you out if you felt i could have approached it better

i added my 2c because i thought OP might be more amenable if the point about the woman who had been abused was conceded, as well as trying to clear up the understanding about why we gauge people based on how they gender people they don't like

i think you're probably right about them feeling directly empathic about the situation, although i don't think that excuses the way they were behaving. they were pretty clear upfront about defending the woman who had been abused, so i feel like if they had an equally understandable story, they would have been upfront about it as well. of course, that is an assumption on my part, which could be incorrect, but i think questioning why they felt like their behavior was OK was fair

Banning is language control

yyyyyyyyes, you're correct. what i meant in my post was more like, we cannot control what OP thinks or how OP speaks of people personally. like, we literally have no power there. i intended to juxtapose that with what you've mentioned, banning and such, but perhaps i wasn't as clear as i could have been

i hear what you're saying about issuing a warning vs a ban, although they had a direct dialogue with ada about the situation, so not sure how much more of a warning would have been effective. and, you know, sometimes one does want to just silence the opposition; it's not every person or every space's job to be persuasive and understanding; as you say, we are an online safe space for trans people, not the government. i definitely don't disagree with ada's moderation style for LBZ, and i don't disagree with her choice here, either

the things you're explaining are things i've been thinking about, though, so i appreciate you saying them, regardless

do you game or do other hobbies that keep your hands busy but your ears open? throw up some of those self love affirmation videos off youtube, the ones you're supposed to listen to while sleeping. i can't speak for if they work while you sleep, they'd keep me up, but they work great as essentially background noise and help your mood and self compassion improve over time

this is true but absolutely not something most people believe, saying it is a good way to get most people to think you're full of it if you're trying to persuade them of something else

ace rule

honestly first good use of "slams" in a headline

crazy how much of this is being driven by cis women with bruised egos

obviously, not the majority. but like, damn lmfao, learn to take an L

curious what y'alls sources are for good quality femboy gear

can a brotha get a sound warning on this piece?

turned my volume up bc i thought it was gonna be a quiet fox noise and got CLANGGGG 💀💀💀

winter before spring is very good, pog meme

https://www.webtoons.com/en/drama/winter-before-spring/list?title_no=6400