This description is spot on!

I have since learned that for me, this is difficulty with transitions combined with sensory aversion, which can be accommodated for!

For the transition, I put on a high reward podcast before even beginning to head toward the shower. Shifting from X to Y is challenging, but shifting from enjoying a podcast while X to enjoying that same podcast while Y reduces the contrast and makes it easier.

For the sensory issues, battery operated bar lights instead of the overhead light, soap that I look forward to smelling even though it costs a little more, and an IKEA folding seat in the shower (sometimes standing is hard)

Ohio State University

Not to mention, in many situations suicidal feelings can be interpreted as a desire to mercy-kill oneself, which is more reflective of self respect than cowardice.

Learning to live beside chronic suicidal feelings can look like staring it in the face every day and working to focus on the "mercy" part over the "kill" part.

Its kind of a two-wolves situation, I think -- but neither of those wolves are cowards.

I clicked that article fully prepared for it to be dated 2025, and immensely relieved when it was dated 2021 😷

Adding to the gem pile: this eight second bowling animation is how I learned about the Demon Core

he hates that these kids can’t be exploited the way other children are.

This is so true it took the wind out of me 💀

I'm so glad you said breasts!! Come with me on an exploratory walk:

Let's say you fall for a woman. You're getting intimate and she stops you to tell you something serious. See, she hasn't been honest about her body with you. She hasn't dated in awhile and didn't know when the right time was to tell you, but she wants you so much that it can't be avoided now.

She had her breasts removed for an unspecified medical reason. You thought she had a great rack, but those were prosthetics. Despite her biological circumstances he happens to identify with having breasts and prosthetics make her feel confident and normal.

Has there been deception? Have you been led on? I don't think so, I think this was this just part of learning whether you're compatible with someone. Only you know whether the absence of breasts is a deal breaker for you, and you get to decide freely in that moment.

Does that help?

damn I wasnt expecting that

Also if I'm the dev on this project and I've been told to do this, this is exactly how to implement it. Malicious compliance baybeee

I hope you successfully avoid everyone with tattoos forever, but it's not because they're the "unsavory" ones here

I don't think it's tangentially related? You have effectively contrasted the Right Thing To Do comment with your experience of the Wrong Thing To Do as well as its terrible, lifelong impact.

I too had that flavor of (let's say unkind) upbringing and now I devote every waking moment to tearing that garbage out of me and installing something more like what u/moakley described