Shitty property planning with no off-street parking results in people needing to park on the street in a car centric city where you need a car to function.
Not city/property planning's fault tho, it's the people with no choice but to park on the street that are the problem!
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Ffs, sure there is the case of some dick parking outside your home, but the real problem is with city and property planning. Not the fault of individial owners by and large.
She was horny and it made you uncomfortable. You could have stood to voice that discomfort, and perhaps that could be part of your guilt. However, you don't owe anyone your time, and if it is not pleasant interacting with a person, it is best for you both to cut it off before something very unpleasant could happen.
You seem deeply affected by them caring now and not before. Are you worried they will convince him? If not then they will eventually see it worked itself out and stop caring. If not, well they aren't involved in your relationship so what do they matter? Not everybody will like you, it's wasted energy to try and make that the goal.
It sounds like you have a lot of hurt wrapped up in this and I am sorry for that. Men are people. A lot of alt right men were led down a path by people who cared, because others did not and told them they were the opressor and enemy when in reality they were lost and without social connection. Men do not get socialized in the same way women do and beating on them like this rather than offering a hand in help is what led to this exact thing.
You also sound young as well as full of energy on this topic. You are losing the human perspective in favor of us versus them politics. You are perpetuating it.
Please think about what you are doing, I don't think me debating you further will lead to anything.
Sincerely a leftist white man who loves all people and wants us all to get along and support one another.
Where do you get that statistic? You were given a second chance. Tons of people who commit infidelity get second chances for various reasons. The problem is it is a very personal betrayal that pushes a lot of people emotionally. This has nothing to do with men specifically, only that they don't want to see him hurt. You don't either, right? So you are really on the same side.
I support a month for both men's mental health and LGBTQ pride, but the positioning of both is a bit hamfisted and could be read into maliciously.
Fact is though, if we do not support men in some way, the alienation turns them into enemies. I would much prefer an ally to support, no?
Past experience. Past knowledge. The more often than not correct belief that people don't really change. If the norm is that a cheater is always a cheater, and you see a friend who was hurt by a cheater get back with them, it is only natural to warn that friend.
Simple as that really. I wish you luck getting through it, but if you truly feel there is no chance of a repeat performance and your bf believes you, why care about well intentioned warnings?
Just be cause she doesn't seem to have a problem being out to everyone doesn't mean she doesn't or didn't. It is important to keep in mind there could have been struggles you are completely unaware of. And, if perhaps there were not, that only means that your situation is slightly different. Coming out like this is your choice, but pre-framing an interaction can help a final push for you to reveal what is hard. This kind of strategy has at least helped me make a hard admission in the past.
What I mean is to try to schedule a 'conversation.' Let her know that it is a serious subject matter, but be sure to clarify it is not a negative subject. It is something you want to discuss, and you would appreciate her time and attention.