Hello, thanks for taking the time to read this. I hope that my SO can read some of your responses and realize that shes not crazy, and Its a major issue with alot of us.
She is 25 and has debilitating social anxiety, She is working on it and making good progress. She has a small group of friends online and talks to them regularly, plays games with them and ever since she started talking to them Ive noticed a huge upswing in her moods and demenor. Lately shes been trying to branch out and meet more people in other online spaces.
She has expressed to me that people seem to just know something is different about her, or they seem to interact with her differently than everyone else. I tried to explain (from my perspective) as a fairly autistic individual (undiagnosed cant afford). That yes people can just sense neurodivergency, and will treat us differently. however I, being raised by extremely extroverted parents am very good at masking.
She, on the other hand doesnt "feel right" hiding herself behind a mask to make people feel comfortable. I tried to explain that, thats just how people are, everyone to a degree is masking. The people who dont, often get a lot of respect for being "real" and or put down by others for being overwhelming or annoying.
Ive tried to offer tools to meet others somewhere in the middle, where i believe most people exist. mirrorism Is a tool that I frequently use to guage the extent of what i can and cant say to someone. I also have a "nonchalant" attitude towards people in general which I think makes people feel comfortable around me. This frustrates her, understandably. Because she cares alot about people and wants to build meaningful friendships. She looks at my tools as being fake, and even points out others within her circles that are unabashedly themselves that get treated better or are more "noticed" even if shes been around longer.
This and other factors are of life are often sending her down these spirals of thinking that are difficult to comfort or reason away, since alot of what shes experiencing is determined by other people who themselves are not always of sound mind. She thinks people dont like her and that shes not "worth" the attention. She is a wonderful presence and cares so much about me, her family and everyone to an extent. I find it frankly unbelieveable that any of what shes telling me is grounded in reality.
Im hoping that a few people sharing thier own experience and tools to work through the spirals. Will both motivate her to keep trying for friends in spite of the cruelty of people, aswell as offer a fresh perspective on being "real" or "fake". In regards to talking to new people.
ALL of the listed features from zorin pro have free alternatives, unless you really want microsoft office, screen sharing, adobe premier, etc... just stick with the free version and find free viable alternatives. Libreoffice, kdenlive, etc. How did you land on zorin to begin with? Most new users are recommended to use fedora, ubuntu-gnome, and linux mint. To me, just looking at zorins website they do not share the most basic principles of the linux space (being free and open source). I highly recomend switching, if you could run
This will output the name of your display manager like gnome, kde, etc. The version of zorin you are running is more than certainly using a popular one. Just find a distro that uses the same one. And your user experience will be almost exactly the same. Zorin might have some QOL features but definitely not anything you couldnt implement yourself.
Feel free to reach out here for more help if you run into any brick walls. You already dual booted your pc so i have faith that you have a pretty good grasp on what you are doing. If time is a factor and you just need a distro that "works" stick with what you have, and find FOSS alternatives for zorin. Best of luck