[-] Kainsley@lemmy.world 8 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

You got a negative response from me because you asked me a question, I gave a fair response and you got shitty. It's not that hard to understand, if you're rude to people then eventually they'll be rude back.

Re cultural or generational issue, oh come off it mate, if you ask for feedback and then attack people who give it to you, then what do you expect? For reference I'm also 30's, UK. Nope it's not that, you're just needlessly rude.

[-] Kainsley@lemmy.world 9 points 9 months ago

Yea, everyone down voting you is wrong, you're the only person who is right. Do you not see the irony?

As for your question, what is the point of coming to a social website if people are not being social? In my opinion (and I'd assume a fair chunk of the people down voting you) everyone else is being social, you're coming across as being anti social.

[-] Kainsley@lemmy.world 14 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

What are you defending yourself from? No one's attacking you... you asked me why I felt your comments came across that way and I replied. The misquote changes nothing, you still wouldn't ask someone if English is their first language and ignore the comment, to suggest so is clearly ingenuous.

Like I said, you come across as someone who sees the negatives. It looks to me like you think everyone is attacking you and are therefore responding defensively, which then comes across as aggressive.

To answer your question, how would I ask someone? I wouldn't, it's obviously irrelevant, as is this discussion at this point.

As I said, have a good day.

[-] Kainsley@lemmy.world 18 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Perfect encapsulation of my point.

Apologies for misquoting you, but the correct quote is equally disingenuous and your attempt to turn my reply into an attack on character instead of answering the question is exactly why you're being downvoted.

You come across as a person who looks for the negative in everything and doesn't actually want to engage but rather make yourself feel superior, but that generally doesn't work outside of traditional social media. I bet you're a joy to work with /s. Have a good day.

[-] Kainsley@lemmy.world 17 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

But that's the point, you aren't actually engaging in the discussion, your questions aren't on topic but are more rhetorical attacks on personality.

If someone at work speaks to you in broken English and your response is "is English even your first language" instead of responding to their comment, then your next conversation would be with HR.

Break it down what are you trying to achieve with that question and how does that add value to the discussion?

[-] Kainsley@lemmy.world 18 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Sure,

Lots of replies which don't actually address or respond to comments but rather attempt to put the other person down, example:

Attacking people's replies but then suggesting they replied to the wrong person (which one is it?)

Attacking someone's language/typing skills instead of responding.

Suggesting anyone who disagreed with you are "behaving like redditors"

These little put downs come across as attempting to belittle the person you're replying to and is a common way to "win a debate" by discouraging the other person from replying, in the absence of actually having a discussion.

[-] Kainsley@lemmy.world 12 points 9 months ago

I can see that in your first comment, but all the responses after that definitely come across as needlessly confrontational and I can't see how you feel that's being "understanding" personally.

That said, it's all good.

[-] Kainsley@lemmy.world 32 points 9 months ago

Pretty sure the downvotes are because you're behaving like an asshat.

[-] Kainsley@lemmy.world 42 points 9 months ago

Probably shot by another mass shooter /s

[-] Kainsley@lemmy.world 17 points 10 months ago

When exactly did Argentina ever control the Falklands though?

[-] Kainsley@lemmy.world 10 points 10 months ago

Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by neglect, ignorance or incompetence

[-] Kainsley@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago

Not just less likely to be seen, but now a greater percentage of those views will come from Twitter blue subscribers as well who might not be their intended audience.

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