"One of the things that makes people dislike religious folk is the tendency of believers to destroy entire relationships over violating dogma, breaking families and refusing to support children."
...which is to say, let's not clutch our pearls over jokes, especially those made by communities that are often very scarred by religious abuse. "Punching up" isn't the problem here.
As an engr manager, I've often seen disparity as a result of being hired during good years vs bad years for the company. Or when someone gets a better offer to leave, the company may change their pay but no one else's. Or hiring externally vs a transfer from another internal team. Or whether the team is coding for frontend web vs dev tools, even if using the same language. Or if female.
It's always a challenge for one person to fix -- with HR, with the department head, with yearly budget. And sometimes fixing one disparity means not having the sway to fix another as well.
Which is to say -- pay transparency and unions are good for everyone. And if the company can't afford to treat the employees equitably, then the company shouldn't exist. (Or it should reduce its avocado toast budget.)
Hmm. Again, I hear what you're trying to say, but "OP posting a meme to Lemmy about supporting trans rights" isn't "insisting every part of every discussion cater to all of your beliefs at once."
You're tilting at a strawman that isn't happening here, which is part of what makes your comments come across as more than simple face value.
"Pick your battles in conversations" is potentially a valid point. But "don't post supportive memes because bigots don't like the association" is effectively an attempt to silence support for trans entirely. (And trans people need more support than just healthcare.)