I recently created a version of the Aspec flag but with the Agender colors in the middle star. I did this because I wanted a flag that represents those of us who are both on the aromantic/asexual spectrum as well as those of us on the agender spectrum. I think there are many of us who relate to many parts of both the aroace and also Agender experiences so I wanted to create a flag that represents being part of both AroAce and Agender spectrums.

Please let me know what you all think about this design, as well as ways it could be improved while still keeping the feel or the original a-spec flag.

So a partner and us are thinking about getting married so we can emigrate somewhere (we do genuinely want to be together). However we're both ace-spec and thus don't have sex.

We're also both not cis, nor monogamous.

They're also aromantic and thus with all these things we don't behave in a typical mono allocishet way.

So is there any hope for us or will marriage fraud investigators tell us no without us kissing, having sex and generally behaving as expected?

howdy gang, i keep seeing this community in the trending communities thing and it being empty was annoying me, so here's my super cool and awesome post. first btw.

i remember reading (and identifying with) relatively often on reddit how lots of ace people tended to flip-flop between feeling extremely aroace and feeling like they desperately want a partner of some kind, and i want to talk about it.

generally, i am fine most of the time - feeling like i'm living the way i want to live (with no partner) and that i'm not lacking anything in that regard. most of the time i feel like being on my own suits me and perfectly aligns with everything about my general being. very infrequently i get an intense desire to find a partner and share my life with someone in some capacity, but those are momentary and maybe last a day at the longest. i know i don't actually want that for the long run and i'm perfectly happy on my own, but man sometimes those feelings are intense and confusing. kinda like i want the idea of a romantic lifelong relationship in that moment, but the details of how those things work and what they look like in reality are completely unappealing to me.

at some point, those intermittent feelings died down nearly completely and i want to attribute it to connecting more with friends and family, but i'm not a doctor so idk. i think if you feel this way and you know for sure you don't actually want a partner, it might be coming from a lack of meaningful connection with friends/family. at least, that is how i see my unique situation. maybe that's obvious (or wrong), idk i mostly just wanted to populate this community with something and maybe even get some discussion going.

anyway sorry about the blogpost, i guess i want to ask if anyone else here feels like some days they are mega aroace and other days the complete opposite? and do you find anything in particular helps you with it?