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[-] rustyfish@lemmy.world 126 points 9 months ago

Reminder: If someone constantly bitches about his colleagues, calles them idiots and acts like he is the only one who does everything right all the time. Then this person is the problem and is projecting harder than a drive-in cinema.

This is true 100% of the time.

[-] NABDad@lemmy.world 59 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

I recently had a meeting with my supervisor, and he was complaining about how a previous meeting ran over time and repeatedly complaining about how some former team members who moved to a different team caused the meeting to run over time because they wouldn't just agree to do what he asked, but kept arguing with him about why it isn't a good idea.

I had to interrupt him to point out that the meeting we were in, in which he was complaining about the previous meeting running over time because of the previous team members, had just run over time, and they weren't in the meeting this time.

I don't think he liked what I said, but he ended the meeting, and that's what I wanted to happen.

He did my annual review three days later and complained that I don't work well with others, and specifically indicated that I don't work well with him.

He's the only supervisor who has ever complained about me in the 36 years I've been working.

We've had two people retire last year directly because of him. There is another person who refuses to have a meeting with him unless it is recorded.

[-] Clent@lemmy.world 17 points 9 months ago

Sounds like your company hired one of my previous managers.

We routed around him until the company eventually relieved themselves of the dead weight.

[-] beetus@lemmy.world 6 points 9 months ago

Surprised you don't take this sort of detail up to your skip level. Corporations are not entirely blind to issues in all cases. Actually, I bet you have raised these concerns. For all the folks nodding along, talk to your boss' boss!! You owe it to yourself to try

[-] NABDad@lemmy.world 6 points 9 months ago

I have, and others have as well. It doesn't look like the situation can be improved through the chain of command.

Although, I heard through the grapevine that he was written up by the director of a department we support. Honestly, given what I know about that person, I'm surprised he survived that. However, he did.

[-] gamermanh@lemmy.dbzer0.com 18 points 9 months ago

It's the "I'm always right" part that guarantees it

I work with a bunch of fucking idiots who regularly fuck stuff up. But I'm also a fucking idiot constantly fucking Up so I belong

[-] MotoAsh@lemmy.world 9 points 9 months ago

Yea, the having shitty coworker thing DOES happen. It's more the, "I'm the only good one..." thing that's the indicator. Even most actually shitty coworkers are good some of the time or else they'd hopefully be canned quickly.

[-] indepndnt@lemmy.world 6 points 9 months ago

And if you work somewhere where shitty people are never fired, it's probably a good time to find another job. Unless, you know, you're a shitty person and want job security.

[-] xantoxis@lemmy.world 6 points 9 months ago

It's the complaining about it--asserting your correctness to everyone around you--that makes someone the asshole.

Everyone always thinks they're right. If you didn't think you were right to act a certain way, you would do something different! Acknowledging afterwards that you were wrong and made a mistake is what makes someone tolerable.

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[-] splinty@lemmy.world 13 points 9 months ago

I think this is generally true...

... except for driving. I'm the only decent driver out there.

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[-] Axle182@lemmy.world 86 points 9 months ago

Only Thomas, master of all four elements could bring balance to the world.

[-] moriquende@lemmy.world 11 points 9 months ago

His name is thomas fyi.

[-] Trainguyrom@reddthat.com 80 points 9 months ago
[-] bstix@feddit.dk 77 points 9 months ago

(or how to understand those who cannot be understood)

The subtitle really highlights his superior understanding.

I think I get it. Listen. There are four types of people: Red person, yellow person, green person and blue person. And they're all narcissistic psychopath idiots. Easy.

[-] funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works 29 points 9 months ago

Please do not be racist.

They prefer the term "Blue Man Group"

[-] Zoomboingding@lemmy.world 66 points 9 months ago
[-] Patches@sh.itjust.works 8 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

This was a fantastic game for the price if anyone is wondering

Thomas was alone

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[-] thedirtyknapkin@lemmy.world 63 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

reminder not to judge a book by its cover. these kinds of self improvement books are often titled to attract the people that need them more than reflect the opinions inside. like that one social media post of the lady burning a book titled "guys like girls who..." because she assumed it was hateful, but the point of the book was to help young women build confidence and realize they don't need male approval.

[-] protist@mander.xyz 52 points 9 months ago

These books are pseudoscientific bullshit, to be clear

[-] UndercoverUlrikHD@programming.dev 8 points 9 months ago

Anything related to psychology and sociology is pseudoscience.

[-] ProgrammingSocks@pawb.social 18 points 9 months ago

No, you're massively overgeneralizing. Freud is pseudoscience, but there's lots of very real studies especially around the 60s (before ethics were considered) that follow the scientific method and have real measurable outcomes and conclusions.

Don't be anti science. Science is a method, not a social club.

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[-] protist@mander.xyz 9 points 9 months ago

The only reason you think you have space to say that is because doing direct psychological experimentation on humans is extremely unethical

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[-] mineralfellow@lemmy.world 26 points 9 months ago

I tried reading one of these. Gave up when I realized it was basically a very slightly modified version of the four humours philosophy of philosophy. Couldn’t find anything helpful in it.

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[-] Death@lemmy.world 12 points 9 months ago

if any book requires its title to be a clickbait in order to sell and author are willing to use such a move, i'd doubt about the quality of its content

[-] thedirtyknapkin@lemmy.world 8 points 9 months ago

hmm, idk, again in the "guys like girls who" example. it's targeting people with bad self image and telling them they're fine the way they are. if you hate that then you're being way too of a purist on your "clickbait" stance

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[-] slurpeesoforion@startrek.website 10 points 9 months ago

I figured they were conspicuous show pieces, intended for others to see on one's bookshelf or in one's hand in public.

[-] Solarny@lemmy.world 53 points 9 months ago

Surrounded by Thomas Erikson

[-] BeigeAgenda@lemmy.ca 51 points 9 months ago

Part of Dark Helmets library.

https://img.memegenerator.net/instances/61158722.jpg

[-] samus12345@lemmy.world 5 points 9 months ago

Keep firing, assholes!

[-] Nobody@lemmy.world 40 points 9 months ago

If you meet an asshole in the morning, you met an asshole. If you meet assholes all day long, you are the asshole.

[-] XTornado@lemmy.ml 39 points 9 months ago

Uhm... But I am a proctologist....

[-] xantoxis@lemmy.world 10 points 9 months ago

If you can get paid to interact with assholes all day long, you might as well. Most of us don't get paid.

[-] samus12345@lemmy.world 8 points 9 months ago

You do if you do any kind of customer service. Just not enough.

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[-] qarbone@lemmy.world 28 points 9 months ago

Unless you work with businesspeople. Then both parts are true.

[-] Deestan@lemmy.world 37 points 9 months ago

Isn't that exactly what these books are calling out? That if you feel surrounded by idiots, it's you who need to work on empathy and communication skills?

[-] dudinax@programming.dev 28 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

You're the only person here who's read them.

[-] Deestan@lemmy.world 16 points 9 months ago

I read a paragraph of a summary of one of them at some point, can't really speak for the series as a whole :)

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[-] Taiatari@lemmy.world 36 points 9 months ago

Man I hate that guy and his pseudo science.

[-] Imgonnatrythis@sh.itjust.works 8 points 9 months ago
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[-] webghost0101@sopuli.xyz 30 points 9 months ago

He used to be a leaderships coach for manager so can kinda see where hes coming from.

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[-] doofer_name@feddit.de 25 points 9 months ago

the four types of human behaviour

There are only four?! Gosh. That makes my job sooo much easier. If I only had known before.

[-] arken@lemmy.world 11 points 9 months ago

Gryffindor, Ravenclaw, Hufflepuff and Slytherin

[-] I_Miss_Daniel@lemmy.world 10 points 9 months ago

Surrounded by fat controllers.

[-] IWantToFuckSpez@kbin.social 9 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

They are called The Duke controllers

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[-] KroninJ@lemmy.world 10 points 9 months ago

If it smells like shit everywhere you go, might be time to check under your own shoes.

[-] ordellrb@lemmy.world 10 points 9 months ago

Interesting choice of Color

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