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Anon asks a girl out (sh.itjust.works)
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[-] rubythulhu 56 points 2 years ago

Also sometimes you don’t get rejected and instead get dragged into a 6 year long abusive relationship with someone with both borderline and narcissistic personality disorder and you end up with ptsd.

rejections feel nice after that

[-] RQG@lemmy.world 13 points 2 years ago

Sometimes you dodge a bullet and sometimes the bullet dodges you.

[-] rubythulhu 6 points 2 years ago

No i was definitely hit by the bullet. There was no dodging involved.

[-] Num10ck@lemmy.world 5 points 2 years ago

and now you know when to go.

[-] cyborganism@lemmy.ca 55 points 2 years ago

You miss 100% of the chances you don't take.

Good on anon.

[-] Hyperreality@kbin.social 29 points 2 years ago

You say that, but now I've been electronically tagged for hanging around a train station toilet naming people's penises.

[-] the_blast_of_us@lemm.ee 14 points 2 years ago

Joe, get off of Lemmy

[-] thefartographer@lemm.ee 10 points 2 years ago
[-] don@lemm.ee 4 points 2 years ago

Xandorp Writhingshame

[-] cyborganism@lemmy.ca 1 points 2 years ago

What kind of names do you give them?

[-] TheBat@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

How's your half-brother Fabio?

[-] moriquende@lemmy.world 8 points 2 years ago

Yes, but also chances sometimes are coupled to contra-chances that trigger instead and are scary enough to warrant avoiding the whole thing.

[-] cyborganism@lemmy.ca 2 points 2 years ago

We need to teach young men that it's okay to be rejected when asking a girl out and not to be so hard on themselves.

[-] ThatWeirdGuy1001@lemmy.world 6 points 2 years ago

And also teach young women that rejection doesn't mean looking at them with a disgusted look and saying "Ew!!"

tHe WoRsT sHe CaN sAy Is No

No. No it's not.

[-] Damage@feddit.it 20 points 2 years ago

Try again. The woman I've been with for over a decade originally said no as well.

[-] EatYouWell@lemmy.world 45 points 2 years ago

But don't think that life is like a 90s romantic comedy and go full stalker.

[-] Dasnap@lemmy.world 7 points 2 years ago

Nah break into her house and raid her underwear drawer, you'll seem quirky.

[-] Damage@feddit.it 5 points 2 years ago

Yeah, I just said try again, and not again and again and again either

[-] Nepenthe@kbin.social 4 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

I have never seen one person who didn't take the first no, who then proceeded to understand any of the other noes. Them throwing an adult tantrum and promptly leaving is the good ending. Maybe ignoring any answer you don't like isn't brilliant advice in general.

[-] Damage@feddit.it 3 points 2 years ago

Or maybe you could just try and be a human being, not an overly simplistic social algorithm, and try to understand whether there's actually any realistic chance for that no to become a yes, and how.

Social interactions are complex and this kind of reddit teenager "wisdom" is completely inadequate.

[-] nightofmichelinstars@sopuli.xyz 8 points 2 years ago

Try again yes but with a different woman.

[-] MotoAsh@lemmy.world 4 points 2 years ago

This depends entirely on the nature of the, "no".

If it's a shy, non-commital "no", with zero followup explaining any reasons they don't want to, then sure maybe another ask is in order.

If it's a solid "no", or they start listing off excuses or reasons after a tepid no... They probably actually don't want it. It COULD be something like anxiety making them say, "no" and stammer out some weak excusable excuses, but that is rare compared to someone who just wants to politely say no.

What I read was OP build all this stress in their head for months.

Then when it reached its breaking point, OP finally did it and then it exploded in their face.

Gonna recommend not doing that.

[-] Emi621 15 points 2 years ago

Even if I didn't get rejected I would still be paranoid about it being a prank on me, was asked out as a prank at school.

this post was submitted on 15 Dec 2023
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