I prefer to call them LLMs (Large Language Models). It’s how they are referred to in the industry and I think it’s far more accurate than “AI”

I’ve never done this and I guess I need to go yell at a cloud somewhere if this is about to become a thing.

I'd be pretty mad if I knew someone was sending personal texts/emails to openai

Did you use ai to write this post?

....................................... Literally never.

And its never once crossed my mind.

And if one of my friends told me they did this to talk to me, I think I'd just stop talking to them, because I want to talk to them. If I wanted to be friends with a computer, I'd get a tamagachi.

No, and I'd say it's probably not the solution to your problem that you think it is.

Reading the rest of these comments, I can't help but agree. If I found out a friend, family member, or coworker was answering me with chatgpt I'd be pretty pissed. Not only would they be feeding my private conversation to a third party, but they can't even be bothered to formulate an answer to me. What am I, chopped liver? If others find out you're doing this, it might be pretty bad for you.

Additionally, you yourself aren't getting better at answering emails and messages. You'll give people the wrong impression about how you are as a person, and the difference between the two tones could be confusing or make them suspicious - not that you're using chatgpt, but that there's something fake.

This is in the same ballpark as digital friends or significant others. Those don't help with isolation, they just make you more isolated. Using chatgpt like this doesn't make you a better communicator, it just stops you from practicing that skill.

I never used it, but damn are people here judgy. I don't understand how it's a personal insult if someone used it in the way you're describing. As long as your actual thoughts and emotions are what you send, who cares you used a tool to express them.

Anxiety is rough. I wish people were more understanding.

No. I have the same problem you do, which is harming my friendships and networking.

But I definitely am not going to reach for the solution you did. Because if anyone notices, it will effectively nuke that relationship from orbit.

This sounds like a plot to a horror movie. It all starts out with good intent, but pretty soon you notice your AI responses seem a little off. You try to correct it but it in turn corrects you. Your reach out to family and friends but they dislike your ‘new’ tone and are concerned for your sudden change in behavior…

The one time I drafted an email using ai, I was told off as being " incredibly inappropriate " so heck no. I have no idea what was inappropriate either, it looked fine to me. Spooky that I can't notice the issues, so I don't touch it

my resume is 90% chatGPT... the informations are true, but i could never write in that style. it got me two jobs, so i know it works.

i used it a couple of times to rewrite stuff given a context. like i wrote the email but it came out in a vague passive aggressive tone, and letting chatGPT rewrite it will reword it to be more appropriate given the context.

First of all, I can really empathize with your anxieties. I've lost contact with a few penpals years ago because of similar issues and I still hate myself for it.
I don't use chat-gpt for writing my replies, because my English is crap and my manner of writing distinct enough that any friend can immediately spot a real response from a generated one (not enough smileys for one :)
But I still have similar anxieties. So if I feel anxious about writing something, I do sometimes give a general description of the original mail ("A friend of mine wrote about her mother's funeral", "a family member lost his cat", etc.) and give it the reply I've written so far (names and personal details removed).
I then explain that I feel anxious about my reply and worry if I hit the right tone. I never ask it to write for me, only to give critique where necessary and advice on how to improve (for good measure I always add some snide remarks on how it sounds too fake to ever pass as a human so don't even bother trying, which it always takes in good humor because.. well.. AI :)
I ignore most of the suggestions because it sounds like a corporate HR communique. But, what's more important is that it usually tries to tell me that I was thoughtful, considerate and that that little light-hearted joke at the end was just sweet enough to add a personal touch without coming across as insensitive.
Just to get some positive feedback, even from software that was designed specifically for that purpose, gives me that little push to hit the send button and hope for the best. I wouldn't dare to ask someone else for advice because it would be an admission of how weak and insecure I feel about expressing myself in the first place, which would ramp up my anxiety by making it a 'big thing'.

Anyway, I can understand the animosity people show against AI. And I'm happy for those who don't need or want it.

PS: This reply was 100% written without any use of AI, direct or indirectly. I did spend a good half hour on it before feeling confident enough to hit "Post" :)

I am against this. You are using chatbots to avoid your problem, I don't think this is healthu.

I use it whenever I need to write in Corporate Speak. Resume, cover letter, important email.

I also avoid putting in sensitive information, so it needs editing. I found that usually it will leave me places that need specific information, (name here) for example.

It is soooo much better than smashing out some sloppy attempts and rewording it until I get the style right.

Zero. It's important to me to be personal in my interactions.

I try not to. With work email, you should write it as short and to the point as possible, no one really has time to read an essay instead of trying to get their job done.

Part of the reason I use Lemmy is for writing practice, because I want to prove that as a person that I can't be replaced by an AI. This place basically forces me to think on my feet to write quickly on an ever changing set of random topics and get my point across clearly and effectively.

If you can't genuinely talk with me without the need for an llm then I'd say we weren't really friends to begin with.

Maybe what you're doing with artificial intelligence isn't exactly a good idea.

Showing ChatGPT how to respond to my messages sounds like more work than just replying to them myself.

Never.

I don't even use predictive text.

I mostly just use it for laughs. I'll usually ask GPT to explain things from the nihilistic viewpoint and get amazing results.

I also use it to rewrite emails that I need to send for work. I have a tendency to over-explain things and use a cold tone when I write, so sometimes I'll tell it "rewrite this to be more concise and empathetic" and it does a really good job of cleaning it up.

Never and if I found out someone did this to me I would be very insulted.

Never, I have no issue with formulating a lot, I just tend to not immediately reply and then forget.

Very similar experience for me, I used to procrastinate a lot. I still do, but now it's less about not knowing how to approach the message.

I'd say I use it about 30% of the time, usually when the message or email is important or I want to make sure it won't be misinterpreted

Initially I used it a lot more, but after a while I got more confident that I could just do it myself. Often it would just say the same thing I said, but reworded in a more complicated way

When I Text people I don't know well I use goblin tools that uses chat gpt to "translate" how I speak to neurotypical speak, which generally makes them not hate me for being without all the added fillers. Also great for professional emails and text because it makes me look a lot "smarter" because of all the buzz words and phrases it adds for me.