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submitted 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago) by IEatCeleryAt7Degrees@lemmy.world to c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world

I don't feel non-drugged until well after 6 PM. I'm sleeping very well. I even tried caffeine pills and even caffeine doesn't budge the "just come to under general anesthesia" feeling. I've been under before, and that retch-y feeling is the same. People have also noticed that I'm moving slowly. I don't drink alcohol, so this isn't a hangover. It started rather gradually but is getting worse.

Someone suggested it could be low b12, but I've been having the sublingual spray for months and there's no improvement.

Am I just getting old and this is something I'm gonna have to put up with for the rest of my life?

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[-] IWW4@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 hour ago

No that is not normal at all.

[-] CallMeAl@piefed.zip 11 points 5 hours ago

This identical story was posted months ago. At the time OP argued with everyone saying a doctor can't help. Just argued with every suggestion.

[-] velma@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 hour ago

Yeah they kept insisting that women over 30 are geriatric and that this was normal. It was bizarre.

[-] craftrabbit@lemmy.zip 27 points 6 hours ago

Go πŸ‘ see πŸ‘ the πŸ‘ doctor πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘

[-] normalentrance@lemmy.zip 15 points 6 hours ago

Seriously, go to a doctor. That's not normal.

[-] Tollana1234567@lemmy.today 7 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago)

could be anemia, women gets them alot from periods. you definitely needs some blood test to check your: full blood panel. probably check a1c, glucose, ,,,etc. B12 deficiency is unlikely unless you went full vegan or have some disorder, like celiacs, or rarely a tapeworm.

as other said, you could have a thyroid problem, probably autoimmune of the thyroid.

[-] Agent641@lemmy.world 8 points 6 hours ago

It could be sleep apnea. It could be allergies (sometimes you acquire them later in life). Could be that aliens are abducting you late at night and taking turns batting your titties around and you have amnesia about it.

[-] drmoose@lemmy.world 18 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

Did you have covid? Long covid has made people lethargic and I have some friends who only recently fully recovered.

Either way this is serious issue and you should see a doctor. This is not normal aging.

[-] kerrigan778 14 points 9 hours ago

Omg go to the fucking doctor?!? No "could be B12 but I've been getting supplements" NO. Wtaf are you doing? If it's not B12 you would know because the doctor checked and your b12 was normal. Wtf are you doing asking the internet?

[-] db_null@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 7 hours ago

Do you have to communicate like this?!

[-] ExLisper@lemmy.curiana.net 8 points 7 hours ago
[-] db_null@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

Then getting the point across should be the focus. All this hysteria clouds the argument and belittles OP, someone exhausted who doesn't get the help they need from their doctor.

Seems most others here managed to do that just fine.

[-] kalpol@lemmy.ca 24 points 10 hours ago

Do you have a carbon monoxide monitor? If not, get one ASAP.

[-] frank@sopuli.xyz 16 points 10 hours ago

+1, this sounds like a medical issue and not at all typical aging

[-] MaximilianKohler@lemmy.world 6 points 8 hours ago

No. Start learning about the gut microbiome. https://humanmicrobiome.info/

[-] Bubbaonthebeach@lemmy.ca 26 points 12 hours ago

See your doctor. This is not normal aging. Getting a Hypothyroid diagnosis can take years if you are one of the people for whom the blood test is garbage. Insist that your doctor get the full T4, T3 testing done. Sleep apnea is also one that can be hard to diagnose but leave you feeling fatigued.
You don't have a husband or live in partner that might be drugging you? In this day and age, it isn't as far fetched an idea as it once was.

[-] innermachine@lemmy.world 6 points 10 hours ago

To tag onto the partner drugging you- had ur drinking water changed? Construction nearby or mold growing somewhere? My town water is currently potable but for a little white had too much haloacetic acid. It came under federal guidelines and was considered drinkable but fluctuates with rainfall amount, and fed guidelines are pretty generous anyways and not the best metric.

[-] davidagain@lemmy.world 174 points 17 hours ago

Doctor. Go to the doctor. You need to see the doctor. This is not in anyway normal. See the doctor. You need to see the doctor. Go see the doctor. This is a medical issue and you should see the doctor. See the doctor.

[-] Randelung@lemmy.world 1 points 19 minutes ago
[-] X@piefed.world 77 points 17 hours ago
[-] Apytele@sh.itjust.works 11 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)

Right like off the top of my head we'd literally be screening op for cancer like severe fatigue with sweats and nausea and relatively sudden onset a few years ago this is bad bad bad bad bad OP might already be dead from letting this go on so long posting this on Lemmy instead of SEEING A DOCTOR is insane.

[-] KneeTitts@lemmy.world 52 points 16 hours ago

"I’m sleeping very well"

People cant assess themselves for sleep issues, you are asleep, you cant tell whats happening. If you have central apnea you might be 'waking' 30 or 60 times per hour and never have a clue its happening. But the side effect is you never get to the recuperative level of sleep the body needs.

[-] JasonDJ@lemmy.zip 17 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)

This.

People with apnea say CPAP/APAP are life-changing.

They are not exaggerating.

I was dealing with a sciatica flare for months that would never get better. Had an unrelated sleep study, found out I never even get to deep, restorative sleep. Healing just...isn't happening.

Maybe unrelated, but since starting APAP my sciatica is much improved and I'm actually waking up refreshed.

[-] quick_snail@feddit.nl 1 points 10 hours ago

Well, I think I can asses that I don't sleep well. When it takes me hours to fall asleep, then I wake up at 3am and can't fall back to sleep for an hour or more.

I'm pretty sure some people can assess themselves for sleep issues..

[-] Darkenfolk@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 hour ago

I mean you are awake, so technically you can't tell if you sleep well ;P you can make an educated guess though.

[-] alienzx@feddit.nl 114 points 19 hours ago

As someone with sleep apnea, you have sleep apnea. You feel like that because your brain is not getting oxygen.

[-] HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 1 points 1 hour ago

oh i didn't know apnea was the only thing that caused that

[-] naught101@lemmy.world 21 points 13 hours ago

There's no way you can make a reasonable diagnosis from a 100 word Lemmy post, and don't so might be putting someone in danger.

[-] kbobabob@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 57 minutes ago

That's correct, which is why just about every comment in here says to go see a doctor.

[-] farmgineer@nord.pub 11 points 13 hours ago

I think this wording is too strong, but I indeed ctrl+f for apnea. OP should do a sleep study.

[-] RIotingPacifist@lemmy.world 32 points 16 hours ago
  1. See a doctor
  2. [If outside of the US] See a physcatrists about why you posted this on Lemmy Instead of seeing a doctor
  3. [If inside the US] demand Medicare for all
[-] WhatIsH2O4@lemmy.ml 9 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago)

I saw replies saying you got a TSH test done. While this is the "gold standard" used for testing thyroid function, it's easily misleading. TSH levels are somewhat relative and do not tell the whole story. Doctors often label subclinically low TSH as "normal" but you may not feel normal.

The way hypothyroidism is diagnosed is dogshit these days and it's quite common (1/4 women, more common as you age). If you have only seen an MD and one who is not specialized in endocrinology, I would get a second opinion. My experience is that nurse practioners and DOs are less likely to take this seriously.

While it's possible it's something else, I wouldn't rule our hypothyroidism strictly from TSH. You can also request a wider thyroid panel that tests free/total T4 and T3, plus thyroid antibodies such as TPO. TSH only tests for the hormone telling your thyroid that your body needs hormones, it does not test for the hormones themselves. Additionally, it does not test for whether you have a thyroid autoimmune disease. This could lead to all your symptoms.

I've been through this struggle and known plenty of others who have as well (Hashimoto's, began in my mid/late twenties). Modern doctors underdiagnose the disease because of they leave it at a TSH test and will often shrug you off with a vitamin D prescription. Go to someone who specializes in this, check your symptoms against those of others and pay particular attention to how they describe how they feel. Trust your intuition about your own body and what feels normal.

Brain fog, body aches, feeling cold all the time, lethargy, waking up feeling like you can never get enough sleep or like your brain is awake but your body isn't, depression, hair loss, weight gain, poor appetite...these are all signs to look for, but unfortunately are shared with many diseases. You thyroid hormones control so much of your energy and everything surrounding it.

If this ends up being the problem, you can take a simple and cheap thyroid hormone replacement daily and everything will improve. There are natural and synthetic replacements, if you are put on one type and don't like it, try the other one. Synthetic T4 and T3 or armor thyroid/natural pig thyroid (contains T1-T4).

Good luck and I truly hope you can find how to feel better!

[-] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 18 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)

You need to see a doctor and get blood labs to start figuring this out. I'm an old woman and I can say it's not just age. If the first doctor dismisses you, they may be suffering from Female Symptoms Dismissal Syndrome and you should try another. Could be anything, including something serious like MS.

[-] SaveTheTuaHawk@lemmy.ca 58 points 18 hours ago

The last thing you should be doing is consulting Lemmy.

See a doctor.

[-] atro_city@fedia.io 83 points 20 hours ago

Honestly, talk to a health professional if you can. That doesn't sound normal.

Have you tried a pregnancy test?

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[-] hanrahan@slrpnk.net 5 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago)

peri- menopause? IANAD and am a male

I'd suggest seeing a doctor but you could be from the US and it might not be possible.

[-] Wildmimic@anarchist.nexus 25 points 18 hours ago

As someone with massive sleeping issues - no, that is not normal.

As @alienzx@feddit.nl mentioned, it might be sleep apnea. make audio recordings of your sleep - it should be pretty obvious the moment you are able to get the first breath in again, it will probably be a pretty noisy event. If you have apnea: DONT DELAY SEEING YOUR DOCTORS. This condition causes brain damage over time, you dont want to wait this one out.

If it isn't that, get your bloodwork done, there's a load of things that might be an issue.

[-] velma@sh.itjust.works 31 points 20 hours ago

People have also noticed that I’m moving slowly. I don’t drink alcohol, so this isn’t a hangover. It started rather gradually but is getting worse.

This symptom here is the most concerning. There's no way doctors are hearing that symptom and telling you everything is fine.

Are you the same user who posted about feeling this way and chalking it up to being over 30 years old and a woman a month ago or so?

[-] celeste@kbin.earth 35 points 20 hours ago

Nope! I'm older than you and that doesn't happen. You probably need blood work done? I went through a time when I was exhausted constantly and was like "this must be middle age" but I had low iron and vitamin d.

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