At that point just say "Nice tits" and get the awkwardness out of the way. I ain't playing your little power game as one of those friends.
But ...what if the tits aren't nice?
Then you say "nice tits" and don't look at em anymore.
Mean titties ya got there
Let me tell you about the worst pair of titties I ever saw; they were awesome
"Will you please roll those up and put them away? I'm afraid I am going to trip"
Then you say it sarcasticly. Or just flail your arms and say "Quaid, start the reactor"
Perfect username for this comment.
But also, it just depends. Sometimes it’s about the party, place, and people.
I don’t talk about it much in normal spaces, but a subset of my friends group is fairly routinely naked or (with consent) randomly and casually sexually interacting with others.
At the most recent party with this group, they had to explicitly say the party was kid-friendly until a certain point, to avoid pink bits and inappropriate demonstrations from happening while children were there. (And also to ensure parents knew to get their kids out of there.)
Examples of things that routinely occur -
Some of the women wear dog toy squeakers in their bra to encourage interaction with their boobs.
People just compare undergarments and anatomy. Folks just get partially/fully naked and hang out.
People get tied up on the suspension point in the living room.
The same mount point can also mount to a pole, and the pole can be swapped in if someone is feeling acrobatic.
Sex sometimes randomly happens. I’ve been involved in an impromptu threesome. (A twosome spun up and we had a guest appearance.) People leave doors open.
There’s a hot tub. People use it. (The rule is no bodily fluids in the hot tub.)
I mean, it’s kinky people at a party. Not a kink party. But just people at a party that negotiate consent and things happen.
Different rules for different groups, though. The point isn’t to make people uncomfortable or to play power games (doing that probably would lead to a conversation at minimum and possibly a loss of invitation to future parties), it’s to revel in the physical pleasure of interacting with others and to have fun with folks who like to express their exhbitionist tendencies. While also bitching about work and life and all the other things people do at parties.
"why is she being weird, this is uncomfortable"
I once knew someone fairly exhibitionist. I consider myself relatively immune to bullshit and once spoke to her about it and how it was a bit rude to make other people uncomfortable for your own gratification, but she didn't change what she was doing.
(She never hung out naked, it was just stuff she said or how far she and her bf would go when out with all our friends.)
yeah this kind of stuff needs consent from everyone or you're just making people uncomfortable and that's not fun or very nice
I think there's a real selfish mindset to it: people who do this like using their sexuality to get a reaction, even if others don't enjoy it. They like "making a man hot under the collar" or watching someone try to decide whether to say something, or then feeling superior because they didn't name the violation of social norms.
I kinda get the other side: if we were more open about sex and nudity it'd save a lot of grief. But I think you can tell when someone wants to do that versus when they get a power trip from sitting around with their tits out, because it's done in smaller ways.
feeling sorry for lots of the people in this thread and their prudish mindsets
i'm queer and in seattle so casual nudity is pretty normal here, we even have a whole beach for it! i go tits out at bridge raves and pride and other stuff all the time and nobody cares. and half the time i'm wearing see-through tops with no bra! like... sometimes you'll be hanging out and some people will just be naked and it's fine. most of my friends have seen my nudes i post on mastodon! it's good and fine and okay. it's only weird if you make it weird
oh, i’ve always found it kind of funny, actually.
the fediverse/lemmy have a very progressive demographic, but they can also be surprisingly prudish when it comes to anything sex-related, especially when it’s coming from a female perspective.
after being on here for months, i’ve somehow been branded as “the horny poster,” even though most of my posts aren’t explicitly horny or freaky. they’re more observational, almost diaristic, in the way they approach these kinds of topics. for example, i don’t find this post horny or freaky at all.
I've never seen you post something that is not related to sex in some way, so yeah you are definetly a horny poster for me.
I don't mind though.
and don’t even get me started on the “mark this as NSFW, please” police patrolling around here, lmao. (the tamest post you can imagine.)
Ehhhh, I can understand people might hold a pretty large safety margin for "will my boss be OK with this".
Edit: did some profile stalking. None of that is remotely nsfw, screw those people.
I'm not comfortable with people hanging out naked around me and no amount of your "feeling sorry" is going to change that
probably something like:
dontgetcaughtlooking..
dontgetcaughtlooking..
dontgetcaughtlooking..
zomg!!!!!!
ihopenobodysawme...
If your hanging about with your junk out I'm looking. If you don't want me to look put your pants back on.
Used to have "Naked Tuesdays" with another couple we were friends with years ago. Just the four of us hanging out naked watching TV, maybe some other things happening. If you weren't looking at anyone else, why even bother?
Something similar happened to me while playing catan at a friends place and it was pretty weird. One of the sublets we didn't know very well had a new lady friend over ever month. The lady of the month walked into the kitchen in just panties and asked what we were playing. She obviously didn't get the response she was hoping for and left with a disapointed look on her face. We all wondered if she was hoping to fluster a bunch of "virgin nerds" like some corney early 2000s movie in order to stroke her ego.
I actually find this gross, I'm assuming the roommate consented or else your are no better than the guys who flash people naked under a trench coat. But if he did, and he's obviously so visibly uncomfortable, I can't imagine as an empathetic person continuing to make them uncomfortable.
Even if them being uncomfortable was because they were trying not to make me feel uncomfortable. I can't imagine the meme switched genders people would be so cool about it. I guess i could say if a pig has wings it would be a bird, but this is gross. Sorry.
It's funny cause I just got mad at someone for saying something fucked up to a shitpost, but this doesn't feel right at all.
Maybe first ask for context before getting so riled up?
Not everyone on this page has the same cultural background as you. In Germany for example it's quite common to be naked at the beach/lake. Not everywhere obviously but common enough that a lot of us are not bothered by nudity as much as other cultures.
Wow, the comments in this thread are surprisingly bad, even for a shitpost.
Having been in the situation myself, my thoughts were very much "let's not make them uncomfortable" (meaning feel sexualised), but the first times (as a young'un) it got stiff enough (not that way :p) that the person chose to break the tension. Just don't be weird about it and everyone can be comfortable.
There are plenty of situations and contexts where nudity isn't sexual, and I highly recommend getting comfortable with that distinction. I find people and groups of all genders to become a lot more safe with that skill.
Why are you nude with guests over? No offense intended. Genuine question.
we're on a boat which is an ideal location to be perpetually nude (sunbathing, swimming, no need to go anywhere else, etc.)
and also, you know, the implication.
Yes, thirst trap police, this comment right here
I would probably just look. If there is no attempt at hiding anything then why should I attempt hiding looking?
That's my take on it as well. I've played some party games where taking clothes off was part of it and I wouldn't have participated if I was uncomfortable with people looking at me. It's weird to me to think otherwise, like if you don't want people looking is your intention just to make everyone uncomfortable? That's not cool.
Nawh that’s their face after they peep the plug 😂 We talking sun tanning or suggestive nude yoga while maintaining small talk?
Spread eagle staring contest sounds like a hilarious gangbang opener
How can I discreetly sneak off and stroke it til I blow?
“Guys, I gotta take a HUGE shit. Also, I might be a while because I’ll be furiously masturbating.”
Reptile brain: LOOK! LOOK! LOOK!
Sentient brain: it's rude to look so I'll try my best not to
I was curious if this was some violet type shit and it kinda was lol. Good job
I don't think I would like to see my friends naked male or female. I would be more ok with stranger nudity. It is not that I see someone naked and I immediately think of sex or I evaluate their body (though the latter is more likely than the former). It is just years of social conditioning that makes this situation very out of the ordinary and more awkward when someone I know is involved.
I'd be uncomfortable if a person isn't clothed and I'm not mentally prepared for it. No matter the looks.
I call bull shit. Last week I caught you furiously masturbating in the lemmy communal sauna. I would've believed you if you weren't constantly yelling: "Oh God, I'm not mentally prepared. Oh God. Oh Please! I'm not ready!" You're a bad liar.
Then came the heatwave and everyone is barely wearing clothes at home on those days here. Even the friends who come over!
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