You delete your posts because of karma.

I delete them because they display my embarrassing incompetence for all to see.

We are not the same.

I was talking about this in another thread the other day, and somebody pointed out that, on the fediverse, every post gets pushed out everywhere. So, a user deleting their own post is just asking pretty please if all the federated instances will respect its deletion.

I don't think that all fediverse clients/portals delete the comments along with the posts. IIRC, Voyager lets you look at the comments on deleted posts, at least I think I've seen my own comment after the post was deleted.

Don’t delete your stuff over downvotes ever. Say what you mean and mean what you say and if some people don’t like that oh well. The need for universal validation is killing human discourse

Being authentic means not everyone is going to like or agree with you all the time, it’s a good thing

Even if you're on Reddit, deleting your post/comment because of downvotes is cowardly. Is your ego so fragile you won't stand by your own words because of imaginary internet points?

I consider the downvote button to be the “fuck off” button, which I reserve for toxic comments or posts made in bad faith. I try to be generous with upvotes and sparing with downvotes, but some people here go straight for the downvote button and pile on more downvotes when something is already downvoted. If I see someone getting downvoted heavily who is acting in good faith, I’ll give them an upvote, even if I don’t necessarily agree. Otherwise, withholding an upvote is what I consider the correct response when I don’t agree or am not interested.

I do often delete my comment if I’m told to fuck off by too many people, mainly because it’s the first thing I’ll see in my client the next time I login, which will make me less motivated to engage next time.

Deleting a post also removes all comments on it.

This really needs to change. OP shouldn't have control over the conversations everyone's having, even if they can remove their portions of it. Even reddit didn't give OP that power, even if it was removed from the sub page.

FWIW some instances/front ends preserve the comments section, although it ends up being a bit jank. For example, if you load this through lemmy.zip, it shows as an error because OP deleted it. But if you go through old.lemmy.zip you can still see (most of) the comments, although not what the original post was.

https://lemmy.zip/post/65423752
https://old.lemmy.zip/post/65423752

Are you sure people are deleting their posts? The last time this came up people went nuts making assumptions about the stupid things users were doing deleting their posts, and it turned out to be a mod.

unless you wrote something truly horrible

Look, I will be honest, I don't like this about social media platforms. Nobody is perfect and not every person universally agrees on everything together. Disagreements and arguments are a guarantee. Who decides what is "truly horrible?" It should be defined in the rules by the mods and admins, not by each individual user.

Downvote a post or comment however you want, sure. But nobody should be following accounts to harass them in other threads or vote brigading every post they make just because they don't like or agree with a post. People do this all the time on Reddit, and Lemmy is no different, they do it here too. This is way more devastating to Lemmy than deleting comments or posts.

If a post or comment actually breaks rules, that is the moderator's and admin's job to take care of. Report it and let them handle it.

Nobody should be deleting posts, I agree, but also please don't be a Brigade Bozo. Nobody likes a Brigade Bozo.

EDIT: Also, may want to add "Why you should know this:" before your last paragraph.

I recently cheated on lemmy with reddit for a couple days. I'm back to lemmy. I like the community more and I find myself scrolling way less. I get what I would want to get out of reddit without sooooo much bullshit that you end up scrolling for an hour without even realizing it.

You can tell when a troll is from reddit because they will spam your comment history with downvotes as if it matters at all here.

I would assume that embarrassment drives most deletes here.

On lemmy, downvotes are as much a badge of honor as upvotes. Chase the controversy! That's what the design incentivizes.

deleted by creator.

lol

It's fine to delete posts, except this one. This is peak lemmy.

I appreciate that this is an open source community where speech is more flexible which is what I was drawn to about lemmy but as with before I got banned on reddit, if I feel if my posts are embarrassing or show that they have no value to the people I am talking to, then I will remove them to not clog thread space.

You guys have downvotes? Every time I try to downvote a post I got a server error

People should perhaps be cautious of what they downvote. I recently posted my take on something, but said I was open to counterarguments. The responses were good and made me reconsider (though not entirely alter) my opinion. My initial take was downvoted—which feels like it is being used as a 'disagree' button, which is arguably not the point.

What if I post a really stupid meme that I later regret

goes on a comment binge at 1:30am

wakes up to 20 replies in the notifications at 7:30am

what have I done??

can’t deal with other people’s judgement today

deletes all that shit

I think a number if post deletions are to avoid the negative comments coming in since there's no way to turn off inbox interaction or notifications per post.

I know you can turn off notifications all together, but I don't want that either. I just want to mute posts where I keep getting negative replies to.

Don't assume the post was deleted. Modded posts also show as deleted.

But also why would a downvoted post need to be saved? If it were a good post it'd have a positive vote count.

If Lemmy wants to be a community, they can stop dogpiling.

Surely this is on the downvoters, though? To a lot of people, downvote means "I want this post removed from the internet", not "I don't fully agree with this post".

Aren't those deleting their own posts just saying "Oh no! I didn't realise this was so upsetting to people - I better remove it"?