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That sounds like anhedonia which is a major symptom of depression. You should consider seeking help.
Regular sleep, exercise and reaching out to others who care about you can all help outside of professionals though.
"Talk Therapy" is a waste of time
I tried Lexapro and Welbutrin now... eh idk all I felt was the placebo effect of "OMG Is this gonna save me?"
But then the novelty dies off and idk if its even doing anything and it takes too long and I just drift off it and not really stick to schedule...
Addressing underlying problems is the best cure for problems. You need to push yourself to explore the world more, maybe visit somewhere new, or take on new life projects like a job, volunteering or study.
“Talk Therapy” is a waste of time
Starts multiple threads per day to talk about his mental health issues.
Talk Therapy” is a waste of time
I have a book recommendation!
Feeling Good, by David Burns. It talks about thought patterns associated with depression. It helped me. It's not a magic bullet, but it's still worthwhile IMO.
Unfortunately that is often how drugs for the brain work, or don't in your case. There is often a lot of trial and error to find something that works for you. They also take a good couple weeks to even start working properly which doesn't help.
why do you say talk is a waste of time, if communication were a waste...why bother even making this post at all?
I mean the clinical type.
Makes me feel worse than before....
I hate talk therapy so much. It's awkward and makes me stressed as hell. I always feel much worse afterwards.
Unironically, be bored more. If you are so tweaked out by the constant stimulation of modern life that even the deluge of content can't suffice, your brain has been broken. Meditate. Read. Listen to the sound of your breath. You will want to do something else. Do not do something else. Teach your brain to live at the speed of life.
The cure is doing something that benefits someone else. Hedonism is inherently boring.
My cure:
- Take a walk every day. No headphones or music, just take a walk through your neighborhood, nature if it's nearby or anything. Aim for an hour each day, at least 30 minutes.
- Look for non-screen hobbies, or at least non social media hobbies. Things like drawing, writing, making music, woodworking, 3d printing Warhammer, or even reading books. Don't beat yourself up if you don't work on your hobbies a lot though.
Besides this I hear people being positive about journaling, but I've never tried it.
Find hobbies to help get you excited about things and less bored. If nothing appeals to you, you might have clinical depression
I felt this when I was struggling with depression. I recommend seeking help for that.
No. I have effectively defeated boredom.
Never in history has the average person (caveat: I live in a developed nation) had access to so many varied hobbies and forms of entertainment.
A more significant struggle is finding meaning. I have succeeded there too, but it is more of a challenge.
Care to share your wisdom?
Are you asking me what the meaning of life is?
There is no one true answer, I think you have to ask yourself what your most important values are. Volunteering and donating in service to my personal values has given me a sense of purpose.
What do you do when you feel bored?
On Friday I sat by a lake and ate a hotdog. On Sunday I walked up a hill and looked at a ruin of some sort.
Neither was very stimulating but I was not in a hurry to get home and be more bored. I also got some exercise and sunlight.
My cure is to try new hobbies/activities. Especially ones that require your complete focus. Like Motorsports. Personally I have a lot of anxiety when it comes to singing in front of people, resulting in everything else disappearing during the vocal lessons I for some reason signed up for.
It used to make me sad that I couldn't hold a single hobby, but I guess I'm just not built for it. Trying different ones as often as needed is more up my alley
Most days yeah, I'm 23 and struggling most of the time with how boring life is to me, I got hobbies that I never have the energy to do and new experiences just seem too much of an effort to try them out.
I have a deeply rooted romantization of death too so that definitely doesn't help
I have ADHD so boredom is like death anyway
There is no cure, the treatment is distractions. Reducing the symptoms may cause the issue to resolve temporarily.
Esketamine did a lot to help with the overwhelming anhedonia. For around a year I was more able to enjoy doing things. Not perfect of course, but it definitely helped. ECT helped too, but it didn't last as long so I don't recommend it as a first plan. TMS helps some people, just not me.
Meds can help take the edge off too, but they aren't going to fix it. And in this hellscape of a world, I don't think there's any complete cure likely.
It might be worth looking into pursuing a hobby you care about more seriously, if you have one you do or are interested in trying. Having something regular to work on you can enjoy even sometimes gives you something to look forward to and feel kinda good about. For me that's mostly music, but it could be writing, board games, fencing, whatever.
You're worth keeping alive. I hope you can find something that helps.
In my 20s? Drugs, alcohol, and live punk shows
Now in my 30s, 8 hours of sleep every night, staying physically active everyday, getting plenty of sun, always have something to look forward to(cooking on the weekend, taking a day trip just to explore, spending a whole day at home with my phone turned off messing around with blender, unity, or just writing code), enjoy the small things like reading a couple pages of a book I like every evening
I know it's time to find a new hobby that truly interests me.
Or, reflect on your life and see what's draining your energy. It's best to talk to a trusted friend.
As a kid I felt so frustrated with how bored I got that I had tantrums, on one or two occasions.
But nowadays I don't get bored at all - phone, video games and work/study mean there's always something to do, and not enough time in the day.
Boredom can be useful. Use it for self reflection, exercise, et cetera. I would credit how bored I was as a kid with how smart i was as a kid.
that isnt normal , you can be bored to "tear"s but people still find random things to do.
If you already tried therapy, going out oft your comfort zone, acting against what your boredom suggests you, try mushrooms or acid. If you dont feel ready to let go of control you can try MDMA first. Its not a solution but it can be an experience to show you there are possible other feelings to feel.
This is very risky so try everything else first!
Drugs and alcohol, and music.
Do something you believe in. Or that you can make yourself believe in. If you are bored, that means you have spare time and energy. Go out, do something with people, preferably with nice ones
Spare time... maybe
Spare energy? Zero.
Turns out there's a clinical condition that can make you not care about anything, and there is a treatment.
anhedonia, first learned about this from a ds9 episode, where dukat claims weyoun is anhedonic due to his over concern for dominion day to day operations.
Is there a treatment for having no energy, though. I mean really having no energy. ME, MS, Post Covid, CFS...
I mean... You need a doctor, buddy, that's beyond internet folk medicine.
Most doctors don't take it seriously.
There's a massive issue with medical care these days, people who can't be incredibly dogged (not to mention intelligent enough to do all the legwork that a doctor is supposed to have done in school and on your behalf) and if you can't just keep trying with different doctors and hopefully finding one that gets you and gives a shit it's really hard to get the right care. Not to mention if you have to navigate insurance. It's like you have to make your own medical care a hobby. But sometimes it's worth it - you can make your own choices, I'm just commiserating.
I know. Man, tell me about it. Some days you just can't get up, and then you keep sitting on the couch, doomscrolling or something like that, and hating yourself for it.
The thing is, it's not going to be better unless you do something about it.
I remember that one time I felt like absolute shit. Burned out, tired, dreading human contact. I forced myself to go to some political meetup, as an experiment. I argued with some wannabe college communists, didn't change a single thing in the grand scheme of things, and went home much happier.
Another day, I forced myself to go to some emergency response exercise. Half the people are pensioners twice my age. The other half are the kind of people I could never honestly argue politics with, because one of us would be dead. And they own way more guns. You know the type. I biked back, cursing them personally for all that is wrong with this country. But you know what? That evening, I felt better.
You get the idea. Then of course there are days that I am just tired, and, to quote, take my comfort from this hole I'm sinking in.
Bottom line: force yourself. At least sometimes. Even if the people there are morons. Even if the voice in your head says you should stay, and that you don't need to.
That's just ADHD
Finding purpose.
Do something or if your comfort zone. Maybe something where you have concentrate fully on what you're doing on the moment, like climbing or downhill mountain biking or something like that but stay safe (instructor, safety equipment etc)
It could be so many things, so hard to give advice. For me, a big part of it was sleep related, and I could only fix it with medication; if you have adhd it may be similar. The medical issues gave me the feeling of I'm painfully bored but my body refuses to do/enjoy anything, and I just want the sweet release of ~~death~~ deep sleep.
On the other hand, I was also so used to delaying gratification for school/work that I literally didn't know how to enjoy myself. I think finding the little things that bring you joy and incorporating it into your daily/ weekly/ monthly routine helps a lot. Something like: on Sundays I get to eat pizza or if I reach my short-term goal/milestone, I'll take myself to the cool place I never get to go to. I started doing this after getting a dog. So literally train yourself to love life like a dog.
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