Probably gonna get flak for this, but as a man, I have no issues if women want to stick with other women and I don’t particularly care if I have the option to pick whatever driver I want.
Obviously weirdness and sexual misconduct can occur to both men and women from both men and women, but it’s disingenuous as hell to pretend that men being weird or sexual towards women isn’t the most common by a colossal margin.
No flak. I was gonna post the same thing. Women deserve to feel safe too.
The relationship between men and women (and generally all human interactions) in America has gotten so fucking weird. I agree that people should be able to take personal steps to keep themselves safe. My point is we are so rightfully fearful of each other here because we've completely abandoned the sense of unity in America. Our social safety net, sense of humanity, belief in the good in the world, justice system, and education is so poor it's literally statistically unsafe to be alone with a stranger. It's what happens to your society when hyper individualism takes hold and you end up with a nation of people thinking they are the main character.
Probably gonna get flak for this
Oh please.
You know perfectly well it's not a controversial opinion.
I only added it because I wasn't sure if there was a population of man-children who feel slighted every time women get anything even remotely positive on Lemmy like there was on Reddit
There is. It’s substantial, but much more subtle than on Reddit. Slurs and outright sexism usually get you banned pretty quick here, so it’s largely just the casual sexism left, but it runs pretty deep. And it’s been here at least as long as I have overall (my oldest account is about 3 yo). In the original wave, the shitty population drove off the vast majority of cis female users within 6 months, which is a huge part of why the demographics around here are so heavily skewed toward men. This is also why the women’s communities, which all died out and were resurrected during the second Lemmy population boom, are so heavily policed to shut men down.
You can tell we have such a population because all posts like these about women getting anything at all, good or bad, always, without fail, have an absolute glut of comments. If you then take the time to read all of them, a solid percentage are very clearly motivated by sexism. Now, commenters are obviously self-selecting, so it’s impossible to say in absolute terms, but of the people who choose to comment on such things, and generously leaving out any comments that may just be poorly worded, I’ve typically seen between 10 and 30% of the comments have such motivations, depending how old the post is and how much visibility it got. It’s not always the same people, either, it’s different shitty people most of the time. Downvotes also flow like wine if you challenge those comments, or call out the trend.
Lemmy is filled with men right activists and misogynists that don't hide.
As a burley man with lots of facial hair, when I'm out for a run, if I'm passing a woman in an isolated area or if I'm passing someone, I do everything I can to look not threatening and alert people of my presence to not startle them. It's unfortunate that it's something I feel I need to do, but I'm not out there trying to scare anyone, but when I do on accident it feels like getting kicked in the nuts.
I'm very for women being able to make choices to protect themselves, especially when it's something like this Uber stuff where it doesn't hurt someone else. One could argue it could hurt a males revenue, but that would be a weak argument.
I understand why women feel this is necessary, but I also understands that a policy like this paints all men with the same brush. It's like they are saying "Since a small number of men are creeps, we give you the option to avoid all men". Which seems to be counterproductive.
Meanwhile, Uber has invasive tracking, where they know everyone's history. They know how many drives a customer has provisioned without incident. And I have always considered these rideshare things to be particularly safe, because all parties are consenting to the tracking. That's not guarantee nothing will happen, of course, but it is more unlikely when all parties know Big Uber is watching you.
If Uber had rolled this out and said "you have the option to avoid rides with the opposite gender without an established history in our files", then I think I would have less of a problem with it. But it seems like I can do everything right, and be respectful of everyone, and give Uber shitloads of money, and still be potentially waiting longer for a ride, just because of my parts. How is that OK?
Large numbers of men are creeps, and I say that as a man. That's the issue, that's why they're doing this.
It's not about you. Repeat after me: It's not about you. It's about women who feel unsafe.
Most sexual assault is not reported.
And you will not be waiting longer, women who choose this service will be. So cut the pity party. You lose absolutely nothing.
Maybe Uber should be responsible for background checks of their drivers and hold them accountable for their actions and be able to fire them for misconduct. But that might require hiring drivers as actual employees. And then Uber could issue company vehicles.
Oh wait, I'm describing taxi companies that already existed before Uber.
The fact that we allow Uber/Lyft to operate as a way to skirt regulations that were put in place to keep people safe, and then trust Uber will implement work around solutions like this is ridiculous.
Same goes to AirBnB
While I agree with this, and I'm not defending skirting regulations, before rideshare apps, taking taxis was an awful experience. At least half the time, if you try to pay with a credit card, the machine was "broken", if you wanted to get a ride at a specific time you had to call ahead and hope that a taxi would show up.
Rideshsre apps forced regular taxis to up their game and provide better service, some did and now have their own apps.
unless you've actually literally lived as a woman you cannot know the monumental amount of sexual harassment we face and fear on a day-to-day basis. doubly so for trans women. every single moment i am alone in public i am deathly anxious that i could be harassed (sexually or otherwise) or hate-crimed or whatever. and the worst part is, there's nothing i could do about it. the perpetrator would get away scot-free. the cops do not fucking care
however bad you think it is, it's worse. whatever you're imagining, it is exponentially more horrendous
I have twice been in public with my fiance and some random twat in a pickup truck yells cat calls while driving by slowly in a parking lot. Wish the fuckers would stop so I can pull them through the window. God knows what she's delt with when I'm NOT standing next to her holding her hand. Sick as a society we are, that's why we have trump as pedophile in cheif. Smh.
can males avoid women drivers or is that considered sexist? what if a male wants to mitigate the chance of being falsely accused of assault/rape? I hope people have the choice regardless of gender
edit: the downvotes are funny... I assume people think I mean women should not have the choice, but I mean the opposite. EVERYONE should have a choice, or no one. it's call being fair. rape/sexual assault is not a good scenario for anyone and if people are fearful, they should be allowed to make a choice that allows them to feel comfortable. the downvotes just show me that people are disrespectful/not caring when it comes to fairness and equality. l.. or they are just flat out sexist pricks.
It might be considered sexist, depending on who you ask.
The amount of males being falsely accused of sexual assault is much lower than the amount of females being exposed to sexual assault. Hence why there has been provided a measure for women at this scale, and not for men.
As a penis haver who has been falsely accused of sexual assault, it’s far more common than you think.
As a domestic abuser survivor (of a woman), a lot of us men are just not taken seriously. It is a lot like how people diminish one person's pain/suffering just because it "isn't as bad" as someone else's pain. Men are absolutely abused, raped, and falsely accused. But because it happens to women more, we have to bear our suffering in silence.
No one is saying that men cannot be victims of harassment or assault.
However it is objectively true that women deal with this problem in much higher quantities than men do.
I don't necessarily even disagree with this feature but I can't help but imagine the outrage if that was almost literally any other group of people.
I want to ride exclusively with bilingual Mongolian ginger Zoroastrian jazz enthusiasts over 5'10" to feel safe and demand a feature for me to do so.
Awesome, but they should also give men the option to choose to ride with a man.
I don't think anyone worth listening about anything would find this problematic. It ain't women casually raping and killing, we all know that.
These fucking comments. Anytime anything is done to make women safer men get up in arms and upset. "What about me?" cries the incel.
Said it yesterday about this on a post on my instance.
I drive for Uber occasionally, I am a guy, and got offered this option to only accept women riders. That doesn't seem right...
Maybe Uber is trying to start a new dating app. "The best way to pick up chicks is to trap them in your car."
I don’t get why they don’t just make this a global option. Anyone can choose their preferred gender. Some women prefer women, some prefer men. Hell, some men prefer men.
Came here expecting misogyny-adjacent comments.
...It met my expectations :/
Now add a "Chatty Cathy" / "Leave me the fuck alone, don't worry I'll still give you a tip as long as we don't have to talk" option.
I get it, but it’s discrimination and someone is going to sue them for it.
Most of the comments here seem to be talking about the politics of the gender roles, but no one really seems to be mentioning that Uber should only be used as a very last resort. Call a Taxi, a friend, take public transit. Do not support the VC startup trash that doesn't pay their ~~employees~~ "contractors" living wage.
give men the option to ride with men as well, and nobody will have an issue with this
So what happens when the rider can't find a ride because 99% of drivers are men and it's the middle of the night? We never ask the hard questions, do we? Should sex discrimination in employment be legal? I've always felt bad for male masseuses, nurses and childcare providers having to deal with additional scrutiny and having money taken out of their pocket not because of merit but because of gender.
Well they'll just show the no drivers available screen and give the rider option to widen the search criteria?
The internet is never not a shitshow when it comes to women.
Except when it comes to a country like India or Japan. Then it's all like nodding and agreement that those men are creeps who need to be restrained.
This is a good thing if you ask most women
And if you ask any male uber driver they just lost potentially 50% of their clientele just because they are born with a penis and other penis people are shitty sometimes
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