I get along with every coworker but 2 out of 14, manager is somebody who sabotaged me in the past. To even consider working there again is such a stupid idea, isn’t it? (lemmy.ml)

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Most coworkers made working there a breeze but the manager is somebody who will throw me under the bus if she has to and loves playing favorites.

I sometimes talk and eat together with those coworkers I enjoy and is a breeze, I sometimes miss working with them, they made the job easier.

But the manager is a person I don’t trust. So what does a smart person do in a situation like this?

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[-] tangible@piefed.social 12 points 17 hours ago

No amount of good colleagues can make up for a bad boss. Been there.

[-] Epzillon@lemmy.world 3 points 16 hours ago

Good colleagues make it bearable at best. Was stuck with that for 5 years. Would never work for those people again, no matter the colleagues.

[-] IWW4@lemmy.zip 19 points 19 hours ago

What is the question…….

IT IS ALL ABOUT THE BOSS

If you groove with your boss, you can shovel shit in a muggy swamp and be happy.

If you dont get along with your boss, NOTHING ELSE MATTERS

What does a smart person do in a situation like this?

Avoid at all costs.

[-] Penguincoder@beehaw.org 4 points 17 hours ago

People don't generally quit bad jobs, they stick it out for whatever reason. They do quit having a bad boss though.

[-] IWW4@lemmy.zip 3 points 17 hours ago

Absolutely!

[-] andrewta@lemmy.world 4 points 19 hours ago

That’s all that matters is the boss

[-] gravitas_deficiency@sh.itjust.works 8 points 16 hours ago

People don’t quit jobs, they quit bosses.

Don’t do it. Or, if you do, firmly stipulate that you will not work under that person as a direct result of past experiences with that person. If that’s not an option, just say “thanks, but no thanks”.

[-] disregardable@lemmy.zip 11 points 19 hours ago

stay away unless you're unemployed

[-] morgan_423@lemmy.world 3 points 9 hours ago

Seriously, this is the definition of a "work there for 15 minutes until you find literally anything else" bridge job.

[-] jlarex@beehaw.org 3 points 19 hours ago

No way, I wouldn't work for a manager I don't trust.

[-] Vanth@reddthat.com 3 points 19 hours ago

Easy. Build friendships outside of work with the people you enjoy spending time with, avoid working for the bad manager. The smart person realizes the most fulfilling relationships aren't built at work.

[-] DagwoodIII@piefed.social 2 points 18 hours ago

How badly can they mess with you?

If they can dock your pay, or give you terrible jobs to do, forget it.

If it's a matter of belittling you, ignore it.

Also, see if there's a way to sabotage the manager.

[-] obelisk_complex@piefed.ca 1 points 17 hours ago

She's gonna have power over your employment; if you don't trust her not to use that to fuck with you (and it sounds like you can't), don't go work there. You'll be able to find a position elsewhere.

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