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[-] Iceblade02@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Hi all, it seems like this post got a lot of attention, which is great!

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[-] Leperhero@lemmy.ml 18 points 1 year ago
[-] ada 9 points 1 year ago

I'd argue that sometimes the issue is what people think normal looks like. There's a lot of folk out there that think some really awful stuff is normal

[-] Leperhero@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 year ago

I can understand your point. Normal, in this case or at least the way i meant, was;

Just dont overthink or "lay out the red carpet"

Most women just want a place where they are treated as any other. Not some fake "look how we cater to women" on the one hand, or a place where men simp like fuck at them.

Dont overcook the egg.

Just be normal.

[-] russjr08@outpost.zeuslink.net 6 points 1 year ago

From my perspective the issue I see with a thread like this, given what you've mentioned, is either two scenarios:

  • Either the people here are not normal, in which case the answers aren't going to be helpful at all (even if said answers were expanded past "just be normal")

Or

  • The people here are normal, in which case that leads to... well just be normal (such as treating everyone with respect and kindness)

If that all makes sense, at least.

In terms of addressing the original question you proposed though, I think we should continue our efforts to push the bad folks away as much as we can, along with trying to get Lemmy to be a place that is appealing and inclusive to general audiences (rather than the niche side of the tech space). Which, isn't an exact answer, but in general I've already had a pretty big "internal" struggle of how I can help and contribute to Lemmy.

[-] BradleyUffner@lemmy.world 16 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Putting an end to those really creepy posts on All that seem to be collecting and categorizing random photos of women into name-specific communities like they were Pokemon, baseball cards, or some other collectable might not hurt.

[-] Astroturfed@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago

I came across a couple of those and clicked them wondering what they were, because it was some woman I'd never heard of. Just tons of pictures of a woman, that I assume is somewhat famous. It's super stalkery. I assume they're all beating off to the picture. It's just so weird.

[-] RGB3x3@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago

They're all coming from @lemmynsfw.com.

There's a lot of communities there dedicated to sexy celebrity photos.

It's also meant to be a catch-all for porn, which I think is a good idea. It lets people block the majority of the porn posted to Lemmy by blocking the instance.

[-] funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works 9 points 1 year ago
  • curate more spaces by and for women

  • engage with, share and promote content from other women's online spaces and thought leadership

  • implement strong mod tools

  • and, to the chagrin of freedom of speech absolutists, discourage rape culture, anti-feminism casual soft-core pornography, casual misogyny and racism

[-] astropenguin5@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago

Honestly seems like a better thing to ask the women of lemmy, but what has already been said seems decent to me at least

[-] ada 5 points 1 year ago

It was a couple of threads doing exactly that that made me post this, because I'm curious to get mens perspective on it too

[-] astropenguin5@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Ah ok, I just haven't seen those posts then. Good to know they are being consulted first, good to get everyones opinion too tho

[-] Xtallll 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

2-4mg Estradiol.

I kid, but what I really miss /r/TwoXChromosomes a good active community like that here would be great.

[-] ada 4 points 1 year ago

!twoxchromosomes@slrpnk.net

[-] voxelastronaut@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago

Didn't TwoXChromosomes end up having a huge transphobia problem?

Not asking those questions and stop caring about the gender of people, everyone is welcome.

[-] spaduf@slrpnk.net 3 points 11 months ago

Big "there are two genders, men and political" energy

[-] stoy@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 year ago

The appeal to join a social network is broadly the same for both men and women, human interaction.

As more people join lemmy, communities will become more active, drivibg more traffic.

For now, the biggest barrier to entry is how technical the concept is, having to explain how the federation works and how to interact with it, how to find communities, how to block communities and servers.

Compare that with how reddit did it, you join a simple site, find subreddits and quickly start posting.

On lemmy you not only need to find (and in some cases create) a community, but you need to find the right community on the right server.

Going to redheads on one server may be a community about hair care and styling of red hair, but on a different server it is just porn.

This sometimes confusing nature of Lemmy is good for redundancy and information preservation, but bad for finding the right community to post in.

[-] HootinNHollerin@sh.itjust.works 1 points 10 months ago

I’d say start by limiting the Linux to the (many) Linux communities and not general ones like memes

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