I'm gonna double dip on this post, because I have another one to share. From the point of view of a trans feminine person, I will say this. Everything that women tell you about their experience is true, but you've been conditioned to believe otherwise.

When I was still trying to be a boy, I would hear lots of women talk about how they felt and how they were treated in society. And I was believing them, but in my head, without really realizing, I was always downplaying it, thinking that they were just annoyed and overplaying what they were saying, that they were exaggerating. They're not.

You will get constantly interrupted. You will get followed in the street. You will be harassed by random dudes. Your experiences will be dismissed. Trying to be friend with a man will become almost impossible. People will allow themselves to openly talk about your body and your appearance. You will be on your own if something bad happens to you publicly. And you will be told to shut up and put up with it.

When I came out as trans, I had something that lots of other transfem envy me for, which is mostly instant passing, and I understand how one can be envious of that, but that also came with the reality of all of a sudden dealing with this, full on, 100%, no time for adapting my brain to it or anything. I went from having the experience of a feminine guy in the street to the experience of a woman almost overnight. That made my social transition quite shocking and quite violent. Traumatizingly so, I would say, honestly.

Most men, even the most scaring, even the best of allies, have no idea what women are dealing with on a day-to-day basis. It's fucking crazy, and the reality is that even cis women don't realize it because of the fact that it's their whole life and they've internalized a lot of it.

Being a model minority is in many ways (not all, obviously) worse than being in a despised minority. I mean on the plus side you don't get the open verbal and physical abuse heaped upon you that despised minorities get. But insidiously you think you're being accepted. That people like you for who you are.

And then the subtle racism builds up to the point you can't ignore it anymore.

That was the hard part for me. The colleagues I thought liked me, respected me, and had my back would cheerfully stick a dagger in my back if it was a choice between doing that or having only half a sandwich for lunch.

If you're vulnerable, different or a member of certain groups people will just go for you. Colleagues, managers, people in the street... they'll go for you, and most people will let them

Some people dont change, never apologize and you are better off without them. They need you more then you need them.

you may be 100 times right, but people will believe any man over you

That those who claim to be allies often crumble at the first sign of discomfort.

That high school never ended.

I was told that high school would be some of the best years of my life. It was some of the worst. Years later I understood that this was just a tutorial level for the rest of my life. With my first job, I understood that high school never ended. The horrible, toxic, tribal, unfair environment that you go through in high school will perpetuate in your entire life and will replicate itself in everything.

Either you're in the group or you're out. That's how it works. So, if you were the autistic weirdo that everybody harassed in high school, well... good luck for the future. :|

I bought these generic Tylenol tablets that where like fucking horse pills. I hate those things. >:^(

Also coming to terms with my gender identity and finally putting myself on a decent life path, only for the rise of fascism to really kick into high gear.

I will always have a uterus and ovaries and I just have to deal with that fact.

some people will not listen to logic, and often only listen to themselves