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I’m going to lose the job I got because the CEO of the child torture facility get a restraining order against me (sh.itjust.works)
submitted 4 days ago by FATALRPG@sh.itjust.works to c/mentalhealth@lemmy.world
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It’s clearly in retaliation to shut me up about abuse at the facility. It makes zero sense, even the process server thought it was ridiculous.

But I have no money, I couldn’t find a lawyer. So now my life is over basically. I’m barely employable as it is. I have thousands in credit card debt, I have tens of thousands in student loans, and I work a part time job and do gig work.

There is no therapy. There is no lawyer. DO NOT FUCKING SAY “just check a low income program in your area!” THEY DONT FUCKING EXIST. I live in a red state which exists to chew people up like me.

I have zero family support. I have zero friends. I have zero help.

The second I can’t pay rent I’m walking into traffic.

At no point in my life has there been help. I called a crisis line last year, was assaulted and lost my job because they forget to give me paperwork after I got out.

“Help” seems to be platitudes. Help seems to pretend that there is something on the other side, when across my life that “it gets better” hope gets fucking yoinked from me like Lucy with the football.

Why the fuck is saying “no” such a bad thing? My family didn’t care when I got diddled, why would they care if I was in the ground?

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[-] SinAdjetivos@lemmy.world 24 points 4 days ago

I live in a red state which exists to chew people up like me.

Right, so why would you do them the favor of killing yourself? If they want you dead make them work for it! Every day you stay alive is a day that they don't win.

There's no reason for you to do anything "the second you can't pay rent." Make them make you leave. It'll buy you time to try and get yourself a vehicle or tent to sleep in. Even though you have no support network now, making friends is weirdly easier in encampments when everyone you meet has similar experiences to what you're going through.

Don't focus on things "getting better", it makes the things which are getting worse more apparent. Even in the most idyllic life things don't constantly "get better" they just "get different", if you feel like everything is getting worse that's a good sign to really "get different".

If nothing else I'm proud of you for speaking up against the abuse you saw and I'm sorry you're now getting some first hand experience with it. How you choose to live or not live your life is up to you, but don't let some fucking bureaucrat pressure you into unlife.

[-] protist@mander.xyz 15 points 4 days ago

Take all the money you have and move. Abandon the debts and the lease. With absolutely no plan, move to a city with good services and welcoming people. Believe me, there are places with good services, even within red states (I live in a city in a red state where you would find support if you looked for it). Doing all this would be a much better option than walking into traffic.

[-] FATALRPG@sh.itjust.works 9 points 4 days ago

What is the best blue city to be homeless in

[-] protist@mander.xyz 8 points 4 days ago

"Best" is a judgment call I can't make for you. You might search around for LGBTQ-oriented homelessness services in some cities you would consider. Big cities like Denver, Seattle, or New York are going to have pretty good access to programs and shelters, but I can't speak to details.

[-] enbee 12 points 4 days ago

DM me. We can make a plan to get you somewhere safe.

[-] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 7 points 4 days ago

Start a crowdfund at least. How much money do you need anyway?

[-] FATALRPG@sh.itjust.works 11 points 4 days ago

I have 15k in credit card debt. I have 60k in student loans which will start coming out next month and will destroy the limited budget I have. Idk if a lawyer can even help at this point.

I’ve worked hard all of my life. I worked full time in college. I did sex work which I have nightmares about. All I’ve ever wanted is to be able to work a full time job and have enough to live, and it’s just not an option. I’m a tranny in the south, I have no friends, and I might as well be a cockroach for the love and support I’ve gotten my entire life.

[-] wizardbeard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 4 days ago

If your student loan is federally backed, they have "income based repayment plans" which can go as low as full deferment, $0 a month. Interest still builds, but it's better than starving.

[-] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 1 points 4 days ago

No way I can even chip that.

[-] FATALRPG@sh.itjust.works 4 points 4 days ago

It’s wonderful isn’t it? My ex husband said we’d split the 90k in our bank account half way, even had it in fucking text, but the divorce lawyer didn’t want to do shit. “Oh he stopped paying the insurance before you managed to get him to file? Looks like he doesn’t have to pay insurance then!” He kicked me out, emptied my bank account, maxed out my credit cards and everyone’s like “sorry dumbass, you shouldn’t have had any faith in the justice system.”

[-] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 1 points 4 days ago

You can crowd-fund a lawyer maybe. They can't be all garbage

[-] jet@hackertalks.com 5 points 4 days ago

This is just a moment in time, it will pass and you will still be here. Let it flow past you.

Focus on what's in front of you, one thing at a time, don't worry about what you can't control

No matter what you will be ok

[-] Proprietary_Blend@lemmy.world 17 points 4 days ago

WTF? Is this from a Dollar General sympathy card? Get back on the pulpit!

[-] jet@hackertalks.com 4 points 4 days ago

What is your advice for OP then?

[-] BingBong@sh.itjust.works 16 points 4 days ago

This sounds nice but is an empty platitude that does nothing to help. Comments like these are infuriating for folks facing very real and very significant challenges.

[-] jet@hackertalks.com 6 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Its not a empty platitude, its a philosophy.

Worst case scenario, you hitchhike and go live in the wilderness as a hermit. Once you accept that you can handle the worst case scenario, everything else is manageable. Lost your job, no problem - find work elsewhere, pick up cans, day labor, busk, etc. Lost your house, no problem - couch surf, sleep rough (its summer in the norther hemisphere), camp, shelters, friend network. Legal issues, your not alone, lots of people survive going through the system.

The point is you can control what you can control, everything else you adapt and overcome, let it roll off your back.

Let me try to express it differently - It's not that you can get what you want. It's not that you can control a situation. It's that it's ok not to get what you want, it's ok to not be in control, it's ok that life isn't fair. It's about letting go of attachments to want and desire, and focusing on what you can do with what you have.

[-] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 2 points 4 days ago

You are so fucking delusional. One guy tried to live in the wild with his girlfriend, was found dead. You can't just run from your problems.

[-] pleasestopasking@reddthat.com 1 points 4 days ago

Has your employer said they are firing you because of this?

[-] FATALRPG@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 days ago

Not yet! Don’t officially find out until the 2nd. The waiting is worse.

I really just want to die. There has never been a point in my life where I have been treated with dignity or respect. I was born in a place that didn’t want me, to a family that didn’t want me.

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