I think sometimes it's easy to think that if you love someone, not telling them something about yourself is lying by omission. But it's okay to have inside thoughts. You don't have to volunteer every single thing about your inner life. And doing so, especially unsolicited about a strange porn preference, can really signal that you're not a person with good judgement.

Is this... interest... a major part of your life? Are you spending hours a day spanking it to this stuff? Is it affecting other areas of your life? If not, just keep it up yourself.

Maybe one day she'll ask what your fantasies or porn preferences are in an attempt to spice things up or cater to your sexual interests. At that point you can decide. And if you want to tell her, you can preface it by saying you're a bit embarrassed about it so she doesn't laugh.

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This is the kind of thing you reveal only once they're in so deep there's no getting out.

What’s with all these ‘i am obsessed with Wallace and grommet’ posts lately?

It’s a bit of a mockery of off my chest.

A true self usually has many aspects, assuming that kind of thing is not your main pastime. IMO it's okay to not completely bare your soul in front of someone who is barely your girl- or boyfriend.

WTF?

You would need a team of scientists to solve this problem. Asking on Lemmy ain't gonna cut it

Yea, wait a while before you bring this up. No harm.