Mod notice: semi-controversial but serious question has been raised about an actual issue. Keep it civil and stay classy.

If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. Or at least be tastefully funny about it.

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"somegroup"-only communities really feels like discrimination to me

Why the hell SOME women can't stop generalizing men's behaviour?

What the fuck is wrong with you, guys?

Honestly the varied mobile platforms don't always present the channel/groups rules in advance. Especially if one is just browsing trending topics. There can potentially be no way for some users to be informed enough before they see a topic they want to interact with.

Best solution I found for similar issue is polite advisement of the rules via dm or other preferred method and helping them learn and have better internet etiquette.

Calling folks out publicly can get alot of negative associations with it as well which might end with you group on the wrong end of a troll.

the rules are clearly presented

I use Voyager. Community rules are hidden unless you specifically go to that community page, open the menu, and select "sidebar". It's incredibly easy to miss.

If a community only wants some people posting then a quick fix is to not allow just anyone to post to it.

That's a bit of an overreaction.

TIL there is women only spaces on the internet. How do you even enforce it?

"Why the hell can't blacks stay out of white only spaces"

Successful woman-focused spaces incorporate men, because men are fathers of daughters; brothers of sisters; sons of mothers; and partners, friends, coworkers, mentors, and teammates of women. Men are relevant and important to addressing women's issues.

"The rules are clearly presented"

WRONG! Posts show up in aggregate lists. You know, like the main page of lemmy instances. Where individual community rules do not appear at all if someone clicks on the post directly. I bet a significant amount of the time, people do not even realize which community they're replying to posts in.

Don't like it? Maybe Lemmy needs a way to either remove communities from standard aggregate lists, or to force a popup of community rules when a post is navigated to for a first time viewer that hasn't even seen the community page. Then I'd totally understand being pissed off at first time rule violators.

Lmao the thread shows all the exact problems laid bare.

You got the denial guy, you got the false equivalency guy, you got the not all men guy, just incredible they're all here.

Something about a women only space triggers people. Just look at the people replying here. They can't seem to help themselves.

the rules are clearly presented. either youre not paying attention or youre just an asshole who purposefully throws their opinion in a place explicitly not wanting it.

what the fuck is wrong with you guys?

The same as with those women wanting to get in this men space? I wonder...

More seriously, you ask a legit question (as it would be legit if it was a man asking why some women so badly want to join in men-only spaces), a question that could trigger an interesting discussion, but why does it have to be so fucking angry? (See how poorly it passes?)

People in general want to be included and some even more so when they’re told they’re not allowed in.

It’s easy when it’s a physical space, ropes and security keep the riff raff out. With online spaces, it requires active moderation, mods who are willing to enforce the rules and ban those that violate them.

Based on the comments here and in the previous similar post I have seen, the vast, vast majority of people (presumably men) highlight how this is a problem of visibility of posts in public feeds.

It's a tradeoff between having the community public for discoverability and accepting that many people will not check the rules and violate them, some inadvertently.

The alternative is to make the community private, and accept that women will need to discover a women-relates community by searching for "women", which doesn't seem incredibly unlikely.

From the sentiments I read, most people wouldn't care at all if the community was private and wouldn't have a desire to "invade" it. I definitely feel part of this group.

Considering that it's in the interest of the community (apparently) to have only women, I think it's fair to expect the (minimal) effort from future members to look for it (plus advertising it in posts etc.) on them instead of expecting the vast majority of the users (the fediverse is mostly males) to add friction and having to check the rules of every single community of every post they open (now it might be a community, more might come). Yes, community rules are important, but being realistic, if you don't behave like an asshole you don't need to worry about them in 99% of the times.

However, if this tradeoff is not deemed acceptable, I think there is no point complaining about people "invading" women spaces because it's guaranteed that many people will comment without reading the rules, as I am sure the almost totality of users does all the time. Even without counting the ones who intentionally violate the rule, there is always going to be an organic amount of people who will do so inadvertently.

At this point I think the tradeoff is so clear, that discussing the topic in such a confrontational way looks more like rage-bait than anything aimed at solving the problem.

It's not immediately obvious when it appears in your feed, I also don't think people expect to be excluded due to protected characteristics. I know I wouldn't have expected a community to discriminate.

These comments…

what the fuck is wrong with you guys?

+1

Community rules are community rules, and you can either follow them or get banned from the community. How is ‘women only’ any different?

As for the excuse of visibility: the rule is very often in the title, and the initial post, yet not followed.

As for the excuse of how they can tell: well if they can’t, okay, you evaded detection. But posts very often declare “I’m a guy and this is my take…”

I honestly don’t get it, especially on an internet “refuge” like Lemmy where users should be sensitive to persecution and the importance of safe, moderated discussion spaces.

Lemmy is a public space. Everyone can participate.

Imagine if lemmy was a physical piece of public land. Could you create a community on it that can only be accessed by women? Something like this village?

Is this about the public community, Women's stuff, federated on the public fediverse who's posts get aggregated to the public all feed and which is accessed by a diverse set of software solutions that may or may not force the community rules to be visible before viewing post content?

I try not to engage cause I know about the community, but golly, I can't imagine how a man might stumble upon that and interact.