Bro looks like he Superman, they should have had him play Superman at some point
Instead of whatever the hell Man of Steel was
Sooooo..... we're doing incel shit posting now?
This sort of black pill doomerism seriously destroys your mental health. You don't have to be a Chad to find a girlfriend friends, but thinking your not "conventionally attractive" enough to date is a self fulfilling prophecy.
I just thought it was funny personally.
It is, but they are also right.
You're boring.
Apparently we're also going to mix it with deeply toxic envy of celebrities for seasoning.
Imagine how happy the world would be if people suddenly stopped wishing they were someone else and just realized that they only get one fucking chance to live life and every moment you spend wishing you were someone else is just a massive fucking disservice to yourself and people in your life.
This is what "blind to privilege" means.... LOL
I have had more than one. I am autistic with an anxiety disorder and ptsd and I had guys who aren't those things always talk to me about girls like I am super pick up master just because inam decently looking and in shape. They way they talked about their experiences made me kinda not want any, too...
And no matter how much I tried to explain my situation when asking for advice they just gave sabotaging and extremely vague advice that doesn't mean anything. I wasted away my 20s and a large part of my 30s because of shit like that.
..yes? That's what you have to do. Maybe she says no. Maybe she says yes. Doing nothing definitely won't get you anywhere.
Doing nothing definitely won't get you anywhere.
Not necessarily true, I've never been conventionally attractive, but I've had women approach me multiple times, in fact all but one (out of... 6 I guess) of my long term relationships were initiated by the woman... Of course that was when I was young, now I'm 50 and going through a divorce, I'm not holding my breath...
You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
I also made most of those shots I didn't take
In my mind
If she says no it doesn't come without consequences. You can't talk to her anymore without it being awkward, and if she's part of a larger friend group you're in the embarrassment is even worse.
You're overthinking it. I know because I do the same. But realistically most women are quite relieved when you can take a kind "no" in stride because the bar is so low in this regard.
If you accept rejection with dignity, it's not that big a deal. Don't be a creeper. It's not that embarrassing. And if your friend group is cruel about it, that's good to know. They'd be assholes in that case, and you probably want to find out they're assholes in a low stakes situation.
i mean people tend to like confidence, also you get to stop wallowing in ignorance. conventionally attractive or not, either they say yes or no and then you get to move forward from there. going from not knowing to knowing, that is a positive.
You should know when it is appropriate to ask and when not:
Don'ts:
Do's:
Don't forget the most important 2:
Be attractive
Don't be unattractive
Important note: While bullet point 1 may be about physical attractiveness, bullet point 2 is not.
What is attractive and unattractive is always relative. I have seen fat girls with thin guys. And fat guys with thin girls. Many people who seemingly had a major disconnect in looks. But both found one another attractive.
For me I am quite OK with a chubby gal as much as a petite gal. But I am not attracted to either extreme. I knew an anorexic-like skinny girl and I found her far less attractive than even a very obese girl. The anorexic gal generated some concern for me because she was clearly starving, but couldn't eat much. Not due to a fear of getting fat, but to a metabolic issue.
This. Also, don't put them on the spot. If unsure, give your number and let them decide. If she's interested, she'll text, if not you haven't forced her to make a decision on the spot.
Definitely. Looking like Henry Cavill makes it easier, but confidence is really the main attraction. I know less attractive men sleep with Victoria's Secret-type women. And there is actually a study on men who are perpetually single, and the common denominator is being under-confident. But at the same time, you don't want to be overconfident and thus arrogant.
oh totally. my wife is gorgeous, and she spent a bit too much time in our social circles single because everyone (myself included) was too intimidated to ask her out. we were friends for ages, she started giving me a hard time about having her number for like eight years but never asking her on a date, my ego wasn't going to stand for that and here we are.
To be fair, it took her years to ask you to ask her. She could have just asked too.
My wife asked me out. Only time a woman has ever done that to me. Only time she had ever done it. I thought she was attractive but I honestly didn't expect that. Knowing what I know about her now, it took a lot of courage for her to do that.
She shot her shot and hit a bullseye. There are no good reasons for women to spend all their time waiting on men to initiate.
That's what I thought about my wife... We worked together, I wasn't looking for a relationship, in fact had just come out of a bad one and intended to be single for a while, but she was persistent in putting herself close to me, and while she didn't exactly "ask me out" she did push me into situations that very much resembled dates... After about a year we moved in together, then another year we were married... 19 years and 2 kids later, she started up a relationship with another guy in much the same way, but I was preoccupied with health problems so didn't notice for a couple months. When I did start to notice, she told me I was crazy, ridiculous, a few other not nice things, said he was "just a friend" or "nice to talk to"... But that she wanted a divorce because she had been unhappy for pretty much our entire marriage. I ended up having to talk to the other guy (because of course it was someone we both knew, our son's best friend's dad in fact) to get confirmation, and found out just how long it had been going on. He said she had told him we had been separated for "a while" but still living together for the sake of the kids. When I said that wasn't true, he seemed genuinely distressed and apologized pretty convincingly, and said he was going to break it off... of course I can't be sure he was being honest either... Holy traumadump, batman...
So I recently found out my ex wife had a type. A type she desperately wanted me to fit into. A type that she would make me go to clothing stores for specific shirts that look good on pretty much no one but Henry Cavill.
I did not look like Henry Cavill. Turns out around the time we divorce she goes through this phase swooning over Henry Cavill. Then she cheats on me with a dude I don't know the name of (except I've unfortunately seen his dick) and low and behold he has this kind Henry Cavill build.
Fast forward several years to now. I lost about 100lbs. Started lifting. Getting swole cause it was fun now that my body was smaller. Ate more protein, added creatine. Drink lots of water. I need different shirts. I dig out some old shirts, the only ones that sort of fit well are the ones she got at clothing stores that look good on pretty much no one but Henry Cavill. Turns out they still don't look good on me, not because I'm not Henry Cavill, but I'm not a fuckboy.
Then she cheats on me with a dude I don't know the name of (except I've unfortunately seen his dick)
This seems like it could be an interesting story, do you mind sharing?
For some... solidarity? Doesn't seem like the right word but whatever... I know the name of the guy my wife cheated on me with - he's our son's best friend's dad.
If you dig through my comment history I'm sure I've given the whole story in various bits and pieces with more details and less details.
Essentially we were young. I ignored so many red flags, started thinking with my weiner, she love bombed me, I did what she wanted, she cheated, we separated then tried to make it work, and I later found out she had either not ended the affair or kept it to sexting only and low and behold dick pics.
It's a sad story, but also a very good lesson to not listen to never stick your dick in crazy.
Real talk, I thought this was going to end with you going to Henry Cavill's house to punch him in his perfect jaw, followed by an enemies to lovers twist.
This is still good though. I guess.
That would have been a better ending.
And quite possibly a viable ending. He's a nerd, I'm a nerd. He plays Warhammer 40k I paint Warhammer 40k minis. He likes to act, I used to like to act. He works out. I started working out.
Hell, we might be the kind of dudes to be actually good friends. My ex would probably use the connection to try and get with him, and he could like turn her down. That'd be more awesome than I could ever imagine.
I searched this text because I thought it might be copypasta. Great read lmao
Just ask if she plays Warhammer bro
Send me her number. Because she clearly knows Tau are the only good guys in Warhammer.
Let's be honest. Henry doesn't have to ask.
Ok so yes looking like Henry Cavill helps but how do you expect to go on a date with someone you like without asking them out? An amulet of Mara?
I feel like you missed step one there, mate.
Step 1. Be. A. God.
Imaginary and vengeful... Got it.
I don't know where I saw it, and I can't seem to find it again, but I remember one video where a girl uses Cavill as an example of what SOME women find attractive. He's good-looking, yes, but what really got her was how he can talk about his interests with such passion. I'm obviously paraphrasing.
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