Just keep telling yourself, "two Christmases and two birthdays" until greed washes away the pain.
Then try to be less of an asshole to your kids.
Except if your parents never end up divorcing and you just having to live with their bickering and one parent undermining the other with gaslighting. Fun times…
"Stay together for the kids, we can make them as miserable as we are together!"
Except when neither of the divorced parents has any money, and you get zero birthdays and zero Xmas, but a whole lot of yelling from both sides about how lucky you are and how "I don't need to get you anything, that bitch/asshole of a mother/father will get something for you."
It's what my wife went through. But she is doing a great job as a mom and a wife because she made up her mind to be different than her parents. She also went from a size 20 to a size 8 over the past several years of constant effort but that's another story.
I'll adopt the hedgie
They're playing child support chicken.
I can never understand how a grown ass adult (heck, two grown ass adults) can fight in front of a child.... I rlly hope we become better parents when the time comes...
It's impossible to never fight in front of a kid you're raising yourselves. If you live in the city during a pandemic, there might be literally nowhere else to go. I think the key is to fight fair; don't forget that you love the people hearing your words.
Fair... Although in my mind, I was thinking of a fight as an escalated disagreement. Disagreements are fine. In fact, they are inevitable. In this context, I define a "fight" as "a disagreement involving raised voices, shouting, cursing and even violence at times".
It just seems that we share slightly different definitions when we refer to a "fight". Either ways, the advice "don’t forget that you love the people hearing your words" is extremely useful in such cases. Let's hope that we can live by it to the maximum :)
The backseat while they are in a very big argument was always the most awkward thing.
