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To this day, she remembers the racing thoughts, the instant nausea, the hairs prickling up on her legs, the sweaty palms. She had shared a photograph of herself in her underwear with a boy she trusted and, very soon, it had been sent around the school and across her small home town, Aberystwyth, Wales. She became a local celebrity for all the wrong reasons. Younger kids would approach her laughing and ask for a hug. Members of the men’s football team saw it – and one showed someone who knew Davies’s nan, so that’s how her family found out.

Her book, No One Wants to See Your D*ck, takes a deep dive into the negatives. It covers Davies’s experiences in the digital world – that includes cyberflashing such as all those unsolicited dick pics – as well as the widespread use of her images on pornography sites, escort services, dating apps, sex chats (“Ready for Rape? Role play now!” with her picture alongside it). However, the book also shines a light on the dark online men’s spaces, what they’re saying, the “games” they’re playing. “I wanted to show the reality of what men are doing,” says Davies. “People will say: ‘It’s not all men’ and no, it isn’t, but it also isn’t a small number of weirdos on the dark web in their mum’s basements. These are forums with millions of members on mainstream sites such as Reddit, Discord and 4chan. These are men writing about their wives, their mums, their mate’s daughter, exchanging images, sharing women’s names, socials and contact details, and no one – not one man – is calling them out. They’re patting each other on the back.”

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[-] RedditIsDeddit@lemmy.world 19 points 1 day ago

yeah people suck welcome to Earth

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[-] UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 10 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Isn't white knighting a derogatory phrase?

[-] mr_jawa@lemmy.world 38 points 2 days ago

As a middle-aged man, I agree that there are some completely shitty men (loosely) out there. A real man should be compassionate, caring, protective when wanted, supportive when needed, and should never do the absolute scum things this poor woman experienced. This is on fathers (mostly) and mothers to teach their sons what it means to be respectful to everyone around them, not just women but men as well. Fathers need to model the behavior so their sons don’t grow up to be terrible humans. It is on parents to address online safety. It’s uncomfortable to do this but really, really needed. As far as the man sex culture, I’m not sure that is a fair statement. That would be like saying a woman sex culture. From what I’ve seen in my life, you will always be proven wrong if you stereotype anything about any perceived group of people.

[-] drmoose@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

The thing is most of these dudes are highly desired and taken already so what you get on tinder rotation is absolutely not that.

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[-] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 14 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I don't date either.

People are bastards and I like my peace. No woman is worth giving up what I've built.

[-] RedPostItNote@lemmy.world 11 points 1 day ago

No good woman would expect you to give up anything for her. I think we need to zoom out on this problem and recognize the issue is really just quality vs. non quality humans. Quality people are in rare supply. That’s why you have to hold on when you find one.

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[-] dbbljack@lemmy.world 15 points 2 days ago

When I was in HS if a girl wanted to show you some racy pics she'd just show you on HER phone.

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[-] pulido@lemmings.world 19 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I dunno, huge leopards ate my face vibes from people like this.

They keep putting their faith in shitty males then act all surprised when the males turn out to be shit.

I'd wager all the good males in her life were too "dorky" or "unpopular" for her to give them the time of day.

[-] NotSteve_@lemmy.ca 41 points 2 days ago

Yeah how dare she get her personal photos spread across the internet and get sexually harassed!

This is the most incel take and just kind of proves her point

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[-] ahornsirup@feddit.org 35 points 2 days ago

Nice victim-blaming, creep.

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[-] AmidFuror@fedia.io 21 points 2 days ago

That last paragraph in particular reads like a parody of incel thought.

You may be a "nice guy" if...

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