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‘I don’t date at all now’: one woman’s journey into the darkest corners of the manosphere (www.theguardian.com)

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To this day, she remembers the racing thoughts, the instant nausea, the hairs prickling up on her legs, the sweaty palms. She had shared a photograph of herself in her underwear with a boy she trusted and, very soon, it had been sent around the school and across her small home town, Aberystwyth, Wales. She became a local celebrity for all the wrong reasons. Younger kids would approach her laughing and ask for a hug. Members of the men’s football team saw it – and one showed someone who knew Davies’s nan, so that’s how her family found out.

Her book, No One Wants to See Your D*ck, takes a deep dive into the negatives. It covers Davies’s experiences in the digital world – that includes cyberflashing such as all those unsolicited dick pics – as well as the widespread use of her images on pornography sites, escort services, dating apps, sex chats (“Ready for Rape? Role play now!” with her picture alongside it). However, the book also shines a light on the dark online men’s spaces, what they’re saying, the “games” they’re playing. “I wanted to show the reality of what men are doing,” says Davies. “People will say: ‘It’s not all men’ and no, it isn’t, but it also isn’t a small number of weirdos on the dark web in their mum’s basements. These are forums with millions of members on mainstream sites such as Reddit, Discord and 4chan. These are men writing about their wives, their mums, their mate’s daughter, exchanging images, sharing women’s names, socials and contact details, and no one – not one man – is calling them out. They’re patting each other on the back.”

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[-] AmidFuror@fedia.io 21 points 2 days ago

That last paragraph in particular reads like a parody of incel thought.

You may be a "nice guy" if...

[-] Ledericas@lemm.ee 1 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

i was going to say the same thing, that is like the creepy thing a guy can say to a girl they want interact with. nice guy are not nice to a girl. and many woman can smell the desperation of incels so they stay away from them too.

[-] pulido@lemmings.world 3 points 2 days ago

It's sad how much you people have been conditioned to ignore the truth whenever it's something someone else doesn't like.

[-] AmidFuror@fedia.io 4 points 2 days ago

You may also be conditioned. Conditioned to think you would treat a woman exceptionally well, yet you harbor a subconscious misogyny. There are many cases where the "dorky" and "unpopular" guy gets a chance, the woman behaves in a way that doesn't meet his standards, and he becomes abusive.

[-] pulido@lemmings.world 1 points 2 days ago

No, I'm a complete asshole and women love me for it.

I always feel bad for the nice guys who get to watch from the sidelines.

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