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To this day, she remembers the racing thoughts, the instant nausea, the hairs prickling up on her legs, the sweaty palms. She had shared a photograph of herself in her underwear with a boy she trusted and, very soon, it had been sent around the school and across her small home town, Aberystwyth, Wales. She became a local celebrity for all the wrong reasons. Younger kids would approach her laughing and ask for a hug. Members of the men’s football team saw it – and one showed someone who knew Davies’s nan, so that’s how her family found out.

Her book, No One Wants to See Your D*ck, takes a deep dive into the negatives. It covers Davies’s experiences in the digital world – that includes cyberflashing such as all those unsolicited dick pics – as well as the widespread use of her images on pornography sites, escort services, dating apps, sex chats (“Ready for Rape? Role play now!” with her picture alongside it). However, the book also shines a light on the dark online men’s spaces, what they’re saying, the “games” they’re playing. “I wanted to show the reality of what men are doing,” says Davies. “People will say: ‘It’s not all men’ and no, it isn’t, but it also isn’t a small number of weirdos on the dark web in their mum’s basements. These are forums with millions of members on mainstream sites such as Reddit, Discord and 4chan. These are men writing about their wives, their mums, their mate’s daughter, exchanging images, sharing women’s names, socials and contact details, and no one – not one man – is calling them out. They’re patting each other on the back.”

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[-] ahornsirup@feddit.org 35 points 2 days ago
[-] pulido@lemmings.world 14 points 2 days ago

At some point, people have to take responsibility for their actions. Otherwise they're just being treated like children.

You don't think this woman should be treated like a child, do you?

[-] NotSteve_@lemmy.ca 22 points 2 days ago

What actions should she take responsibility for? And why is your first response to attack her over the people causing her harm?

[-] GreyEyedGhost@lemmy.ca 3 points 2 days ago

No one has nudes of me because...I don't take nudes or give them to others. It's that easy.

Not unlike what I said to my children (all sons), "If you are having sex and not taking an active role in contraceptives, then you are saying you're fine with your partner deciding to have children." If you give out nudes, then you have explicitly decided to give that person the option to distribute them. This isn't a statement of legality, but a statement of reality.

[-] pulido@lemmings.world 3 points 2 days ago

They keep putting their faith in shitty males then act all surprised when the males turn out to be shit.

[-] NotSteve_@lemmy.ca 14 points 2 days ago

And I bet you’re a nice guy

[-] Ledericas@lemm.ee 1 points 2 days ago

theres a reason why woman go after guys like that and not like "nice guy like you" first of all nice guy always codeward for acting like a creepy stalker.

a shitty or dumb guy probably has more personality, than "nice guys". Also there is something for everyone dont down yourself, and people like incels thinking they "undatabale". even 2 shitty people can date and marry and have kids, 1 woman and 1guy both can be bad people but still date.

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