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Seems like J is a real friend and the other person isn't. She is exaggerating the issue and making it sting, which isn't very friendly. Decent people won't judge you for it, I wouldn't worry about it.
Agreed. The ones talking crap are not friends. Most people will neither notice or care about autism. The decent ones will never call you a retard. Some people can be such assholes, screw em.
You got a bunch of friends there. Cool. But do you have respect 'cuz you haven't written about that.
I won't pretend to know your situation because it varies wildly, but one group vetting your social connections is generally a red flag in my books. Lots of friends doesn't work for everyone and it's not an autistic thing, but an introvert thing. I have very few, amazing friends and it's the perfect balance for me.
I'd put a stop to the offensive behavior either way. Next time look them straight in the eye and say: 🤷"Hey, where's the respect?" You'll get your answer one way or another.
they seem to think a slur/disability is your entire identity and that you have no personality or interests
If she's not sweet on you, she has no business acting like this. If she is sweet on you, she's got some changes to make, starting with all this bs, and finding someone else(besides you) to wave red flags at.
Basically, call yourself whatever you want, but she's being a manipulative child.
she also complains that no one likes her and when i say i relate, she says because im retarded.
she also says people hate me but don’t tell me because im disabled
She's intentionally isolating you as a buffer against her own insecurities. To her way of thinking, you're both safe, un-likely to turn on her in spite of abuse, and someone she can feel better about herself by looking down upon.
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