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We spend our days bound by endless obligations. Yet, even with loneliness, failed relationships, and soul-draining work, people still manage to catch a glimpse of happiness. Why?

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[-] TheGoddessAnoia@lemmy.ca 5 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Because life is its own joy, and being alive the greatest gift. The loneliness will pass and return, the work grind you down as a song heard in passing will lift you up, the endless obligations are part of being an inherently social species. But, whether human or crocodilian, garden slug or spider, there is pleasure in the warm sun and a full belly, in waking from a good sleep and stretching whatever muscles your ancestors bequeathed. It's only those who demand that, somehow, the universe give them some cosmic purpose -- we, who are less than a virus floating around a sparkling grain of sand on an endless beach -- who cannot find enough in life to be happy.

[-] AnonomousWolf@lemm.ee 5 points 1 month ago

You've got to outlive your enemies

[-] NaNin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 month ago

Try playing disco elysium

[-] Nexy@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 1 month ago

Live your life its the point of living. not working all day in the best days of your life.

Your time its all you have. don't waste it.

[-] Hadriscus@lemm.ee 3 points 1 month ago

...or do ! but knowingly !

I guess everybody will come up with different answers to that.

To me, saying "there is nothing after death" is a simplified model. It asks you to live in the here-and-now, to live in the moment, because that makes you productive today.

Of course, the world won't end when you die. You will leave an impact on the world, kind of a track. Like, when water flows over a landscape long enough, it leaves a river bed. That will stay, even after the water subsides.

So in some sense, death might be your end, but it's not the end. I don't know whether that helped you.

[-] ExtremeDullard@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

It's the everyday drudgery, miseries and annoyances that make the good times worthwhile. Just like you never appreciate the sun more than in a place that gets very little of it.

I currently live in a country that enjoys a very high standard of living and where people really do enjoy the good life. Yet weirdly enough, a lot of the locals are depressed and keep complaining. Why? Because they don't realize what they have, because it's their everyday normal.

As for what's the point of living, if you don't want to fall into the easy fallacies of religion, I suggest you simply enjoy your life while you can. You were born with a finite number of hours on this dirtball and they're ticking away, so make sure you spend as many as you can with your loved ones having a good time. Because when the clock stops ticking, it's over.

[-] tazzy@lemm.ee 4 points 1 month ago

Enjoy the ride.

There is no point. The point is that you experienced life at all, the most rarest thing in this universe perhaps. Most people don’t even stop to think how amazing that is. Going outside and smelling fresh air, drinking water, laughing, crying.

[-] Powerbomb@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 month ago

Nothing happens to you after you die. The pieces to pick up and carry on is on those we leave behind, if we are remembered well. If not, the pieces to pick up and throw out is on them too, anyway.

If nothing happens after we die, it's the same thing as that nothing happens in a movie after it's ended. I hope that the character I was will still exist in peoples' mind even after I go. I've recently started to embrace that "All the world's a stage" thing a lot and lot more, recently.

"All the world's a stage, And all the men and women merely players; They have their exits and their entrances, And one man in his time plays many parts,"

[-] bstix@feddit.dk 3 points 1 month ago

I prefer not having a meaning of life.

Imagine having a real purpose. Then the question would still be "why", but you'd also have that obligation to do.

[-] SnotFlickerman 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

It's up to you to create your own purpose in life.

In my view, connection with others and the happiness and joy we can find in that is the reason for living.

It's what makes the world so terrifying that there are so many broken people who just want to hurt and dominate others and have no care for depth of connection. Because they are wasting their lives on accumulation of power and are painfully obviously deeply sad and broken people.

Sam Altman has his own issues, but he's dead-on when talking about someone like Elon Musk:

“Probably his whole life is from a position of insecurity. I feel for the guy,” Altman said. “I don’t think he’s, like, a happy person. I do feel for him.”

So find people, find connections with them, make your life about your connection with others. That's my suggestion. Love is scary, but also freeing. Will that be a struggle with the obligations we face? Sure, but not impossible, especially if you do your best to set clear boundaries and focus on your family and friends as opposed to the soul crushing job you work to be able to take care of yourself.

One of my favorite films is Dead Man. It's a "buddy movie" about the importance of friendship and the unlikely places we find it. Two men who have been rejected by their respective societies find friendship, trust, and kinship in each other. I think this may be worth a watch for you.

[-] Aatube@kbin.melroy.org 3 points 1 month ago

what else can you do? we are because we am

[-] andrewta@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

Learn. Evolve. Improve one's mind. Understand more of the universe. Gain a greater understanding of one's place in the universe. Grow beyond what we understand and comprehend existence at this point.

[-] executivechimp@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 1 month ago

If there's no point, why not have fun?

[-] lemmylommy@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

If something happens after we die, what’s the point of it all?

No matter if anything happens after death or not, or what happens, we can not know and we don’t seem to be able to comprehend it either way. So we can not know if what we have got is comparatively good or bad. The only thing left is to make the best of it. Because why not?

[-] CurlyWurlies4All@slrpnk.net 3 points 1 month ago

What do we owe to each other? For coexistence without inherent meaning in an afterlife, is the only source of moral good the social contract that we've made with each other to coexist peacefully? What are the bounds of that contract? What are the terms of our coexistence?

[-] PortoPeople@lemm.ee 3 points 1 month ago

Whatever you decide to make of it, which is an incredibly beautiful thing.

[-] Jourei@lemm.ee 3 points 1 month ago

In my book, it doesn't have a purpose, everything only matters for a brief moment in your life. "This too shall pass", for better and for good.

[-] ICastFist@programming.dev 3 points 1 month ago

What's the point? Nothing. Congrats.

Yet (...) people still manage to catch a glimpse of happiness. Why? Fuck if we know. Chemical shenanigans on living organisms.

[-] Diplomjodler3@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

There is no point. This life is what you get. It's up to you to make something of it.

[-] LifeOfEnd@reddthat.com 3 points 1 month ago

To make evil men and women powerful.

[-] babyincubi@beehaw.org 3 points 1 month ago

There is no point, you make it yourself. And plenty of people manage to catch a glimpse of happiness because there's plenty to be happy about.

[-] BeatTakeshi@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

Worms entered the chat

[-] JackFrostNCola@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

If a movie is going to end is it worth watching?

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