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submitted 2 weeks ago by sam@bikersgo.social to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

@asklemmy@lemmy.world How do you deal with feeling you haven't done enough with your life?

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[-] Zarxrax@lemmy.world 8 points 2 weeks ago

Figure out what you want to do, and make a plan to do it. Obviously some stuff is more achievable than others, but there are surely some things that you can do.

[-] sam@bikersgo.social 0 points 2 weeks ago

I've tried to do things I enjoy but it seems like most people hate what I try and do, had it today that i've spend over a week working on something making it work and things and then no everyone hates it and not only hates it but is going at me because of it, just doesn't seem worth having passions anymore,

[-] KingJalopy@lemm.ee 3 points 2 weeks ago

Did it make you happy?

[-] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago

Can I ask what you worked on that made so many people upset?

[-] sam@bikersgo.social 2 points 2 weeks ago

I’ve been working on a website to help users find instances, users and software easier but added in support for reports of super bad actors and ended up getting a lot of hate for the whole project idea, it’s called Fedicate if you wanted to check it out

[-] roofuskit@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago

Basing your happiness on the reactions of others is the base issue here. If you enjoyed doing or making it, that should be enough.

[-] Lexam@lemmy.world 7 points 2 weeks ago

I've done enough. Who's saying I haven't?

[-] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 weeks ago

Can confirm. This person has done enough.

Source: Only they can define how much is "enough"

[-] confusedwiseman@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 2 weeks ago

Change your world not others. Ask yourself why is your happiness based on feedback from what others think of what you do? It’s terse, but “fuck ’em”. Did you do something to better the world, your life, the life of a random passing bug? If so, that’s a net gain in the world. Take the small wins.

Be moral. Be good. Find what makes you happy no matter what the rest of the world thinks.

Find peace and/in contentment. Realize that happy can be a euphoric high that’s not a constant, but a momentary state.

[-] dual_sport_dork@lemmy.world 5 points 2 weeks ago

As your attorney, I advise you to buy a motorcycle.

[-] sam@bikersgo.social 1 points 2 weeks ago

Yes, already there. Currently she doesn't run and need to get my CBT so I can legally ride her.

[-] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 4 points 2 weeks ago
[-] sam@bikersgo.social 1 points 2 weeks ago

Done that, can be helpful but gets pricey when you don't have much money.

[-] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago

I figure every day I'm high on the couch, I'm not out doing anything that costs money. I at least break even, I'm sure.

[-] deegeese@sopuli.xyz 2 points 2 weeks ago

Everyone needs challenging but achievable goals.

[-] 11111one11111@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago

If you have the time to stress over such a meaningless feeling then you prolly aren't doing either enough in life or if you are, you prolly need to seek out a shrink to make sure you are neurochemically balanced.

The entire purpose of life is to make your own meaning out of life. Life is what you make it, kinda like the old waterboy quote, "I like to see homos naked"

[-] ICastFist@programming.dev 1 points 2 weeks ago

Strangely enough, once I started giving drawing classes to kids last year as a volunteer, I no longer felt like my life had been pointless. It felt like I finally did something that would mean something. I was invited to give 1 or 2 classes only, as a test to see if I'd like it. Turns out I did like it way more than I could've imagined, as a I never fancied myself as a teacher. Apparently, the kids loved it, too. Not needing to fill out forms, reports and whatever bureaucracy teachers have to deal with also helps me look forward to this year's classes.

So, my take is that you should definitely try something different in your life, preferably something that puts you in face-to-face contact with other people

this post was submitted on 06 Feb 2025
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