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[-] Melobol@lemmy.ml 109 points 1 month ago

The thing that comes only with age is: to not give a fuck.

When we learn that it doesn't matter we can all be little old people who are purple mohawk headed, wearing clashing neon adidas jumpsuit with zebra primted boas.

[-] ChihuahuaOfDoom@lemmy.world 42 points 1 month ago

I only learned this a few weeks ago at 40 years old, now my hair is blue, both my ears are pierced and I'm a lot happier. I told my 19 year old daughter that "what will people think?" has been my mantra, now it's "fuck 'em"

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[-] Volkditty@lemmy.world 86 points 1 month ago

To just invest in broad index funds instead of trying to play the stock market.

Bogleheads

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[-] gasgiant@lemmy.ml 85 points 1 month ago

The sunk cost fallacy is a very easy way to get stuck being miserable.

Sometimes a drastic change might be painful at the time but will be much better for you overall.

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[-] actually@lemmy.world 66 points 1 month ago

Brushing teeth regularly, and flossing , is more important than I ever realized.

[-] meekah@lemmy.world 25 points 1 month ago

I'm dreading the day my bad mouth hygiene will catch up to me... I know how bad it is but I still can't get myself to brush every night.

[-] RoquetteQueen@sh.itjust.works 18 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Have you tried putting your toothbrush and toothpaste in the shower? I've struggled with brushing my whole life and this is the only thing I've ever tried that actually worked. I also put a brush and paste at every sink but the only time I can ever actually manage to brush is in the shower.

[-] wildwhitehorses@aussie.zone 13 points 1 month ago

Brush whilst the water is heating up means you're doing your bit to help the environment! And other such half truths I tell myself to get through the day.

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[-] sunbeam60@lemmy.one 12 points 1 month ago

Man good dental hygiene is one of those things you just do not think about until you’re older. Flossing, interdental, mouth wash (before brushing), regularly visiting the hygienist and dentist. Your teeth evolved to last 35-ish years, the rest only happens from hygiene.

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[-] MicrondeMMMMMMM 54 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

People just don't care about you that much, if you go into the street wearing nail polish as a a male presenting person no one will care if you don't act weird about it. Same thing for shaving your legs.

Family might care though, what helped me was understanding that I spend a few days per year with my family maximum, but I spend that whole time with myself. So who cares what they think be yourself.

This helped me start transitioning at 19

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[-] SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 52 points 1 month ago

I'm a perfectionist and I realized I've been making life too hard for myself. Choosing a low bar for success but keeping the ceiling high has felt like a much healthier approach.

[-] Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net 27 points 1 month ago

The consultant's proverb: done is better than perfect

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[-] ImplyingImplications@lemmy.ca 49 points 1 month ago

"Fake it till you make it" doesn't mean pretend to be happy until you are happy. I committed to a relationship I wasn't happy in, a career I wasn't happy in, and hobbies I wasn't happy doing, all because I wanted the approval of others. A divorce, career change, and hobby swap made me much happier.

[-] spankmonkey@lemmy.world 32 points 1 month ago

Yeah, fake it till you make it only applies to overcoming self doubt, and should not be used to dismiss glaring problems. It certaibly doesn't work as a cure all for actual problems.

It can in rare cases work for happiness, but only if the reason is one that is just based on self doubt while things are actually going well.

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[-] Asafum@feddit.nl 40 points 1 month ago

I was never going to "find myself" and so I should have just gone to college with my friends for computer science and made the good money when jobs were easier to get even though I had no interest at all in it. Hindsight is 20/20 and all that jazz. Now I'm a worthless schmuck in a factory living in someone's garage paying their mortgage in rent prices.

All my interests are hobbies, some of them even too expensive for me to do lol they're nothing you can monetize.

[-] digdilem@lemmy.ml 22 points 1 month ago

All my interests are hobbies, some of them even too expensive for me to do lol they’re nothing you can monetize.

Work is for making money, hobbies are for spending money. I think a lot of people mix that up and lose their enjoyment; money changes your perspective on why you're doing something.

[-] mathias_freire@lemmy.zip 39 points 1 month ago

The things that don't kill you, do not always make you stronger, but leave you wounded forever.

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[-] fubarx@lemmy.ml 37 points 1 month ago
  • Any work or study done during an all-nighter is a waste.

  • If you meet someone and all they do is talk about themselves, they won't be a good friend.

  • Nobody really cares how you look or what you wear. And anyone who does has bigger issues they would rather not deal with.

[-] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 20 points 1 month ago

Any work or study done during an all-nighter is a waste.

Depends. I did some of my best work at this time (private project. not for my actual workplace).

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[-] JustAnOrdinaryCreep@lemmy.ml 37 points 1 month ago

That it doesn't matter what other people think of me as long as I'm happy.

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[-] sunbeam60@lemmy.one 35 points 1 month ago

Your own happiness is more important that somebody else’s happiness.

Not to say you shouldn’t be nice or help people, or invest in other people’s growth.

But don’t do it to the detriment of your own.

[-] KingGordon@lemmy.world 30 points 1 month ago

At 50 I learned I’d been tying my shoes wrong my entire life.

https://www.fieggen.com/shoelace/grannyknot.htm

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[-] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 30 points 1 month ago

You can just ask people out. You can just ask to kiss someone. I was in my mid 20s when someone told me the first one, and late 20s when someone told me the second one. Dating got a lot easier after each revelation.

[-] EddoWagt@feddit.nl 17 points 1 month ago

You can just ask people out.

I know I can, but you think I dare do that?

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[-] ILikeTraaaains@lemmy.world 29 points 1 month ago

Not too late but later than I should have:

  • To seek professional mental health help
  • To understand that Bisexuality really exists. Growing up and in my teens in media and pop culture it’s seemed that you either were gay or straight, no other option.
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[-] ntn888@lemmy.ml 27 points 1 month ago

That there's a opensource version of reddit!!

Relationships can be anything you want them to be. I wish I spent less time trying to figure out if someone liked me and just tried to have fun with everyone I met.

[-] UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 26 points 1 month ago

Being a good person is a weakness in capitalist civilizations.

[-] Clinicallydepressedpoochie@lemmy.world 13 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Its a super power, actually. Everytime I meet one they impact my life so deeply I can't help but admire them and completely swoon.

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[-] funtrek@discuss.tchncs.de 26 points 1 month ago

Stoicism. The philosophical ideas of how to live a purposeful and good life.

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[-] johsny@lemmy.world 25 points 1 month ago

Compound interest.

[-] Hayduke@lemmy.world 24 points 1 month ago

Manage your finances. Know where every penny goes. Budget as best as you can - plan for all of the things you know you spend money on through a year. It doesn't mean you can't spend money on things you like, but it does mean that you know when you can afford it. It gives you confidence and control no matter how much you are making.

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[-] Jonnyprophet@lemmy.world 23 points 1 month ago

When someone is abusive or hurtful to you, 90% of the time it's not your fault. It's that there is something wrong or something broken in them. They are malfunctioning and it's necessary to understand that.

The other 10%.... Well, own that and fix your mistake.

But a very large majority of the time, it's them being broken and wrong.

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[-] bruhsoulz@lemmy.ml 23 points 1 month ago

Basic necessities arent a given and one should b grateful for em

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[-] No1@aussie.zone 22 points 1 month ago

That it's never too late!

[-] Alice@beehaw.org 21 points 1 month ago

My family is never going to return the favor. Should've gone to school instead of taking care of them.

[-] tenchiken@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 1 month ago

"Family first" is such a contemptible load of crap. Primarily this idea only seems to be brought out by the same exact people that then abuse the notion.

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[-] hperrin@lemmy.world 21 points 1 month ago

Lying can get you ahead in the immediate, but then you’re a liar, and liars lose friends and alienate people.

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[-] QuincyPeck@lemmy.world 20 points 1 month ago
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[-] Grayox@lemmy.ml 20 points 1 month ago

Empathy, Hurt people hurt people.

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[-] Dogiedog64@lemmy.world 18 points 1 month ago

It's OK to only do what you KNOW you are capable of doing. Too many people hurt themselves trying to push themselves too hard, when they just aren't ready yet.

[-] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 15 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Probably would’ve been nice to know I was trans a few years younger but I started hormones at 20 as did a friend my age who came out at 16, so like it probably would’ve been less consequential than much.

The importance of studying. And related, calculus and how electricity works. Both would’ve saved me a lot of money to have learned 6 months earlier.

Also how to say no to someone trying to negotiate your boundaries and use your kindness to push you into a relationship. I should’ve walked away the second she said she wanted to negotiate my no and that she wasn’t going to give up on pursuing me. That situation fucked me up and wasn’t even the first time someone with insufficiently controlled bpd wound up pressuring me into romantic/sexual situations I wasn’t comfortable with by making it harder to say no than to give what they wanted.

[-] funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works 14 points 1 month ago

you don't have to make a living from the thing you enjoy most in life, in fact it's sometimes better not to.

[-] Boomkop3@reddthat.com 14 points 1 month ago

Take it sleazy. Not for everyone, but for some people the most productive way of getting stuff done is doing it with less effort. Don't go too fast and burn out

[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 13 points 1 month ago

I'm not sure it's ever too late to learn anything. Unless you are dead.

But I do wish I'd been able to feel ok about my body as a teenager, the anorexia was harmful to my bones & heart, so I guess technically I learned too late to value my body, or learned it too late to avoid damage anyway, though I'm pretty healthy overall now. I think almost all teenagers are uncomfortable with their looks in some way, at least they were back then.

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[-] mindaika@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 points 1 month ago

Dynamic programming. I should have just chased a check rather than trying to save the world

[-] WhatYouNeed@lemmy.world 13 points 1 month ago

Dad was not lying on top of mum to squash her.

No matter how much 6yr old me was complaining after entering their room early one morning.

[-] accarezzu@lemmy.ml 12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

That you don't put soap in the bootyhole

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