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submitted 4 months ago by Kit to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

My bestie broke both of his arms and wrists two days ago. He's in his 20s, a gamer, has a pregnant wife and a young kid. Any ideas for gifts I can get to cheer him up? He'll have no use of his arms for 3 months.

Already got a bidet for him and hooked it up. Looking into accessible gaming controllers, but he said that the pain is so bad rn that even alternative controllers are probably a no go.

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[-] can@sh.itjust.works 273 points 4 months ago
[-] kambusha@sh.itjust.works 104 points 4 months ago
[-] bobs_monkey@lemm.ee 25 points 4 months ago

Very caring indeed

[-] RandomStickman@kbin.run 103 points 4 months ago
[-] MagicShel@programming.dev 127 points 4 months ago

We had an opportunity to be different, but it's not Reddit, it's us.

[-] cm0002@lemmy.world 69 points 4 months ago

You can take the redditor out of Reddit, but you can't take the Reddit out of the redditor

[-] Alue42@fedia.io 38 points 4 months ago

As soon as I read the title to this, I thought "here we go again", but I'm amazed there are actual helpful comments and only one reference to the arms broken/mom bit

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[-] match@pawb.social 15 points 4 months ago

Mankind knew they could not change society, so instead of reflecting on themselves, they blamed the Beasts

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[-] Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net 16 points 4 months ago

I don't know why, but this moment of self realization is the best thing in this thread.

It's like a gingerbread man in the gingerbread house comic moment

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[-] can@sh.itjust.works 14 points 4 months ago
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[-] communism@lemmy.ml 166 points 4 months ago

Jerk your buddy off for him since he can't do that right now

[-] cheesymoonshadow@lemmings.world 50 points 4 months ago

Nothing says you care like a no-homo handie.

[-] communism@lemmy.ml 26 points 4 months ago

OP never said they were a man. Maybe it's a no-hetero handie.

[-] sik0fewl@lemmy.ca 26 points 4 months ago

Let's maybe just leave that to his wife. Or his mother.

[-] anindefinitearticle@sh.itjust.works 12 points 4 months ago

OP is obviously a man or else they would be asking how to support the pregnant wife.

[-] _g_be@lemmy.world 26 points 4 months ago

A bro-job, for good measure

[-] PiJiNWiNg@sh.itjust.works 43 points 4 months ago
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[-] Tolookah@discuss.tchncs.de 147 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Cleaning service, any house services really, freezer meals, or other little to no prep foods, offer to play with their kid from time to time, help them relieve stress by unburdening them (by taking on chores), instead of providing an escape (video games)

Edit: not dissing video games, but a young one and another on the way is a lot of stress already.

[-] Kit 69 points 4 months ago

I hadn't even considered cleaning services or meal kits. Those are a fantastic idea! I'll reach out to his wife and get her input.

[-] dohpaz42@lemmy.world 16 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Every hobby can be considered an escape. But that doesn’t make it bad. Even dads and husbands need “me time” for themselves. So don’t tax his gig so hard-core cruster.

Edit: spelling

[-] krellor@fedia.io 17 points 4 months ago

LMAO, I know it's auto correct typos, but:

So don’t tax his gag so hard-core cruster.

Is excellent gibberish.

[-] Tolookah@discuss.tchncs.de 12 points 4 months ago

I get this, I'm a dad, and I know that me time is wonderful, but I also know that if the house is in rough shape because I can't do anything even if I wanted, that me time becomes an escape instead of a wind down, and the stress returns the moment the screen is off. Help with the house makes it so the relief lasts longer.

[-] Empricorn@feddit.nl 13 points 4 months ago

That's a bit of a biased opinion on video games, huh? Maybe some, but certainly not every game and definitely not every gamer is about escapism. Some people destress and chill out with games because they have other responsibilities like kids, work, etc...

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[-] pastermil@sh.itjust.works 108 points 4 months ago

Thankfully you're not his mom.

[-] TriflingToad@lemmy.world 32 points 4 months ago

explaining the source, TLDR mom 'performed deeds' for son with broken arms.

[-] GraniteM@lemmy.world 82 points 4 months ago
[-] Taleya@aussie.zone 28 points 4 months ago

My robot friend can do anything!

[-] originalucifer@moist.catsweat.com 73 points 4 months ago

i would get him a cheap violin and a bag of individually wrapped candy

[-] Kit 49 points 4 months ago
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[-] philpo@feddit.org 70 points 4 months ago

You don't give your friend a thing, you give his poor wife something. A bidet goes so long and pregnancy itself is hard.

Seriously: Offer her to do some chores like shopping, gift them some take-away gift cards,etc. The situation will put a serious strain on their relationship,

[-] dohpaz42@lemmy.world 56 points 4 months ago

Gag gift. Since he broke both arms, and wrists, he hopefully can still hold something lightweight.

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[-] Emtity_13@lemmy.sdf.org 33 points 4 months ago
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[-] ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling@lemmy.dbzer0.com 28 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

The Powerglove!

In all seriousness, if you want to be helpful the best thing you can do is spend some time with him in person. He can tell you what he needs, and you can show him you care. If I got seriously crippled like this I probably would start thinking that none of my friends will make time for me because I have become a burden. Prove that nasty self-talk wrong!

[-] Kit 10 points 4 months ago

Sadly I'm 3 timezones away.

[-] JoMiran@lemmy.ml 24 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Me who is 51, active boarder (skate, snow, surf, downhill) since the mid eighties, and has never broken a bone, reading this:

I miss r/neverbrokeabone

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[-] dutchkimble@lemy.lol 24 points 4 months ago
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[-] Empricorn@feddit.nl 23 points 4 months ago
[-] apotheotic@beehaw.org 23 points 4 months ago

Firstly, my sympathies for your friend's horrible situation

Secondly, don't let him near anyone's mother.

[-] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 19 points 4 months ago

I'd say audio books, but you can get them the Libby app and a library card and they'll have tens of thousands available for free.

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[-] Buddahriffic@lemmy.world 19 points 4 months ago

A glass of milk. Might get that 3 months down to 2 months and 29 days.

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[-] someguy3@lemmy.world 18 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Can I ask how that happened?

I think what he and his family needs is help with chores. How well you can help with that depends on how far away you are.

[-] Kit 35 points 4 months ago

He locked himself out of his house and crawled up on his roof to try to get in a window, but all of the windows were locked. He tried to get back down and the ladder toppled. He fell 12 ft and had curled into a ball to protect his head and torso, but his arms were shattered. He's lucky he got away without a concussion or broken ribs.

[-] seathru@lemmy.sdf.org 74 points 4 months ago

Then you should absolutely add one of those rock hide-a-key things to your list just for a laugh.

[-] Kit 23 points 4 months ago
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[-] MisterNeon@lemmy.world 16 points 4 months ago

So depending on how much hand dexterity he has left with the broken wrists I suggest a back scratcher and one of those reacher grabber arms.

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