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submitted 2 years ago by jkelosed@feddit.de to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

This happens in Germany.

Work culture doesn't fit my personality: I don't talk much, I keep to myself, I simply want to do my job and go home, I separate my personal life from work, my colleagues are full fledged gossips, ignore the duties that need to be done and then expect me to help them when they are late. I don't have patience for that crap anymore.

Due to internal regulations, I have to stay on the unit for 4 weeks after sending my notice. Answering honestly the question of why I'm quitting would ensure that they yell at me and bully me, and I don't want to experience that again. Even saying 'it's none of your business' ensures that they feel insulted and start yelling. I have decided I don't have patience for people like that anymore.

So, what do I say?

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[-] Duke_Nukem_1990@feddit.de 6 points 2 years ago

Krankenschein regelt.

[-] Corkyskog@sh.itjust.works 6 points 2 years ago

I am personally curious what "internal regulation" means?

[-] TheColonel@reddthat.com 3 points 2 years ago

I believe that’s the rule in Germany, meaning, giving a month’s notice.

I didn’t realize it was regulated myself!

[-] wintermute@discuss.tchncs.de 5 points 2 years ago

Exactly. There's a minimum 4 weeks that can be increased in the employment contract. Going up to 3 months is not rare, depending on the industry/type of job.

And it works both ways, so if the employer wants to fire you, the same notice period applies.

[-] BorgDrone@lemmy.one 4 points 2 years ago

It’s the same in the Netherlands, but the notice period for the employer is always double that of the employee.

[-] noobnarski@feddit.de 3 points 2 years ago

If its a contract with unlimited employment time, like most contracts in Germany are, he cant fire you anyway, at least not without a valid reason, which could include: stealing, not doing your job, always coming late when there are meetings, stuff like that. But you can only properly be fired for that, if you do it multiple times (depending on the severity), you will get written warnings beforehand.

Another reason is mass layoffs, but they have to have a valid reason too, which doesnt include "oops we hired too many people last year".

So under normal circumstances you will not get fired in Germany, its a different story if you only have a 2 year contract for example, then you might not get a renewal, but a company cannot indefinetly rehire you with a limited contract, they will have to give you an unlimited one, if they want to keep you for longer.

[-] Witchfire@lemmy.world 6 points 2 years ago
[-] LittleBorat2@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 years ago

The free coffee sucks and gives me headaches, can't work in a company like that.

[-] mp3@lemmy.ca 6 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Just say you're leaving for personal reasons. If they keep harassing you, can't you just.. not show up?

[-] deadbeef@lemmy.nz 6 points 2 years ago

This damnable prison of log and ice eats away at my fibre. I find the lack of culture astonishing.

[-] VelvetStorm@lemmy.world 6 points 2 years ago

A loved one has (fill in the blank) medical issue, and I have to go take care of them for the foreseeable future.

[-] doublejay1999@lemmy.world 6 points 2 years ago

“ I would love to stay but a personal matter has arisen “

Or

“I was made an incredible offer I could not refuse”

[-] Hikermick@lemmy.world 5 points 2 years ago

Give them a boring answer them leave weird shit for them to find like maps to exotic places in your trash bin and secret coded messages in the photocopy machine

[-] caesaravgvstvs@feddit.de 5 points 2 years ago

Will they find out that you quit? Would your supervisor tell them?

Also can't you just use your remaining vacations and call in sick to reduce the amount of time interacting with them?

[-] thetreesaysbark@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 years ago

Just a note on this one. He may not have told his supervisor, at least where I live you don't have to tell them why.

[-] caesaravgvstvs@feddit.de 2 points 2 years ago

Not the reason, just that they quit. Some supervisors wouldn't tell the staff for a number of reasons

[-] lagomorphlecture@lemm.ee 5 points 2 years ago

It isn't any of their business unless you want it to be so just be vague as hell. "I got another offer that is a good opportunity." "I've decided to pursue other opportunities." They'll obviously ask questions and you can just remain vague. "I would rather not discuss specific details of my new job."

Or if you don't mind them speculating behind your back you can say as something like "I've decided to move on for personal reasons." Just leave it at that and let them sit there and wonder. Is a family member sick and needs care? Are you sick? Did you get a different job? Do you hate everyone? Are you going to prison? Who knows because you aren't telling them.

[-] quinkin@lemmy.world 4 points 2 years ago

The mothership has been signalled and I must prepare the bunker.

[-] genuineparts@feddit.de 4 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

I have been activated. Сука Блядь Comrades!
Будем здоровы!

[-] TommySoda@lemmy.world 4 points 2 years ago

Say you could never find the bathroom.

[-] mo_lave@reddthat.com 4 points 2 years ago

Make the response about you and you only. Even referring to the workplace would be tricky. Some of your coworkers might take criticism of the workplace personally.

[-] bloodfart@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 years ago

You’re being voluntarily committed

You’re going underground with a raf cell

You’re pursuing your lifelong dream of living on a houseboat in Miami

[-] peereboominc@lemm.ee 3 points 2 years ago

"I can't get any joy from the work anymore. I used to get joy from it. Don't get me wrong, the colleagues are nice and all"

Probably most of your colleagues will agree with you and nobody gets offended.

[-] dessalines@lemmy.ml 3 points 2 years ago

Just say: "many reasons" , and if they keep pressing you: "I'd rather not elaborate"

[-] eezeebee@lemmy.ca 3 points 2 years ago

"My work here is done"

[-] DirigibleProtein@aussie.zone 2 points 2 years ago

I need to move to Frisia to cater for my ailing mother.

[-] manucode@feddit.de 2 points 2 years ago
[-] DirigibleProtein@aussie.zone 2 points 2 years ago

This one. I didn’t know there was another?

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[-] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 2 points 2 years ago

By the time I quit a place, the reasons are well-known. I guess I'm lucky that way! :-D

[-] ArtieShaw@fedia.io 2 points 2 years ago

Is "going back to school" a thing in Germany? From what I know about that education system I'm guessing not, but in the US that's a standard answer.

"I want to move to be closer to my aging parents." - might work. If you haven't shared much about your life, it's an easy lie. And it's dull and depressing, so the odds of followup questions are slim. I hear it a lot when interviewing job candidates in our area.

[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago

Because I don't work here anymore.

Why are you yelling?

But if you have legitimate gripes about them making you do their work why not tell them? You are leaving, it's not like they can do anything about it now, but if it's their fault (for lack of a better word) why not just say so?

[-] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 2 years ago

By not making the last 4 weeks a living hell. Maybe you can even keep some bridges by not incinerating them to hell.
We have the saying "We will always meet another time" in Germany for a reason. No reason to be a dick and be polite and professional.

[-] FartsWithAnAccent@fedia.io 2 points 2 years ago

I just need to find myself.

[-] wuphysics87@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 years ago

Personal obligations I can't discuss for the sake of someone else's privacy

[-] Brad@beehaw.org 1 points 2 years ago

Just tell them, "Bubatz ist jetzt legal!"

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