What do you do with photos of your old self? (lemmy.dbzer0.com)

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Do you keep them, destroy/delete them, lock them away? What are you doing with your photos of your old self?

Personally I'm a bit torn. On one hand I want to keep them because they are still memories, on the other hand I never want to see them again. So I will probably lock them away/archive them somewhere.

But what about you?

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[-] dandelion 3 points 1 month ago

oof, I could imagine my mom doing this to me. I think it would hurt especially for all the ways it would make me feel alienated, as it communicates my mom really doesn't understand me or my dysphoria (and worse, wouldn't care about how I feel or how it impacts me, as though the book would be more about her own desires than mine).

That said, I could imagine someday producing my own transition album like that and I could imagine that being powerful, so I think the fact that someone else would make it for me is part of what would bother me.

[-] Sasha 3 points 1 month ago

Yeah it wasn't really intended as a transition timeline in my case. My mum made a similar book of my older brother's life (childhood to adulthood) and just kinda also made mine about coming out...

[-] dandelion 3 points 1 month ago

oh wow, that's maybe even more awkward; did you ever talk to her about how it made you feel?

[-] Sasha 3 points 1 month ago

Nope, and I don't think I ever will lol

[-] dandelion 4 points 1 month ago

lol, I don't blame you tbh

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