To be clear we aren't complaining about the existence of the gendered language. We are complaining that the maintainer has repeatedly rejected friendly contributions which would fix the gendered language, under the premise that it is ToO pOLItIcAl, instead of just merging the very obvious improvement and moving on with life.

CONSTANT slights or worse endured every day for most of their lives for some perspective.

This is part of those constant slights. How can you simultaneously gesture toward the issue at hand and say that its not worth working on?