Even better the library has that as an e-book, I have downloaded it now. I'm currently re-reading "Avoiding the aging parent trap" by Brian Herd which is by a lawyer specialising in elder law that has a lot of good information in it.

I think researching and planning is my go-to coping strategy, having a good plan in place always makes me feel better. The hard bit will be all the family discussions around it. I always worry about what reaction I'm going to get and fret about what could go wrong, but so far all the talks we have had have gone well so I probably shouldn't worry so much.