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Men's Liberation
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Recommended Reading
- The Will To Change: Men, Masculinity, And Love by bell hooks
- Politics of Masculinities: Men in Movements by Michael Messner
Related Communities
!feminism@beehaw.org
!askmen@lemmy.world
!mensmentalhealth@lemmy.world
If you took it personally, you might be part of the problem
Literally not personal. It's not about you, specifically.
You can feel sad. I'm also unhappy about how I'm often viewed as a threat.
But it's not personal. They're not looking at me, jjj, and saying I specifically scare them.
Maybe you meant something else by "take it personally"?
Like there's a difference between not being allowed into the bar because it's full and because you got drunk and smashed a chair last time. The second is personal.
depends - as a related question - do you feel sad about locking your door because thieves exist and people didn't lock their doors until about 80-90 years ago?
would you and do you leave your door unlocked as a sign of solidarity with the victims of theft?
like with the original question I'm not literally asking you - I'm saying there are accepted norms in society that change.
I dont think this question really explores a lot of global or historical context either. Do women in the 1890s in Africa feel safe alone with men? What about women in 1620s France? 1200 Roman empire? 200 BC Jordan?
no, it's just not personal. unless the Q was "would you rather be with kat_angstrom or bear"