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"Men are bad at picking up on women's hints." What are your actual thoughts on this sentiment? (lemmy.world)

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Either through memes or comments I keep seeing this sentiment pop-up from time to time. And I'm wondering what your (yes, you) consensus is on it.

I for one am too pessimistic to do anything with potential hints. Like even if there is a good chance I still just don't want to risk it.

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[-] livus@kbin.social 2 points 7 months ago

I think once you get a group of people all guessing it normalizes it within a family as well maybe?

It really is a perception thing I think, but yeah it can feel incredibly exhausting for us, instinctively oppo and I guess frustrating for them.

I had some insight once when a sibling was complaining about how they kept making excuses not to pick up a gift they'd accepted and they seemed genuinely angry the person was still offering and hadn't "taken the hint" they don't actually want it. It's flabbergasting to me but seems like that's really how they see things.

[-] VeganCheesecake 2 points 7 months ago

One way to normalise it was probably that there where euphemisms seen as the acceptable way to hint at, or say something. I guess.

And yeah. I think people just need to come to terms with there being a range of ways others express themselves, and that they can't expect everyone will just understand their specific way immediately.