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Could you elaborate on how ADHD affects writing e-mails, if you do not mind? I expected writing e-mails would be more comfortable for someone with ADHD because they can take their time with the e-mail. But then again, the time is limited and maybe this freedom to write in your own time means that you write a single e-mail way too long, rewriting it, … I do not know much about it. I would welcome some insights on the topic.
Nevertheless, I like some of these suggestions very much. I might try and see if I can improve some phrases in my e-mails with these as well.
One of the major reasons this applies to ADHD for me is the fact that I can fall behind on projects and emails and then feel the need to over-apologize and over-extend myself to fix the problem. Several of these tips address it. It's more about boundaries than emails per se, if that makes sense.... I mean, let me know if you have any questions :)
It makes perfect sense. Thank you for sharing. I can relate a bit with my own problems, so I know what you are talking about and can extrapolate further if I do not. Have you managed to create some mechanisms how to mitigate these issues? Something like forcing yourself to set hard limits on how much time you can allocate to any project in addition to the normal amount of time you would allocate for the task, limiting how many times you can use 'sorry' in a single e-mail, etc.?
This is an interesting and enlightening discussion under this post. I learned new things. For that, I am grateful.
I can't speak for everyone, but the issues I have relate to writing way too much information. Sometimes if I get in the zone I write beautiful emails, but most of the time it is a rough experience, full of deleting and rewriting. This happens when the response can be easily condensed into a couple sentences. Anyway, that's just my experience.
I have the same problem. I started using AI to rewrite my emails to make them more concise and to avoid long-winded responses.
That might actually be a great help. You give a few bullet points and the AI can generate them into sentences. Then we get into the joke that the recipient will use AI to summarize the e-mail into bullet points again, but in general, I think it could help with these types of problems in e-mail writing. Thank you for sharing.
I see. That can be exhausting, I imagine. Thank you for sharing.