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I'm really confused (lemmy.world)
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It's been around a month since I started questioning my gender. I'm really confused on all of this, seeing a therapist would help but that's not an option for me at the moment (don't want to go into details about that here). Biggest source of confusion for me is the fact that there are some strong signs that I'm trans but at the same time I don't feel like a woman (nor anything othet than a man). Does this happen to trans women before egg crack or any form of transitioning? This question is a huge roadblock for me at the moment in terms of questioning, it feels like I won't get anywhere with this without finding amswer to it. It probably won't be final answer to everything but even if I'm trans transitioning would't be safe for 4-5 years so I have enough time to explore my identity.

Edit: Thank you all for responding, it's really helpful. Now I'm a bit more sure that I'm trans but I'll try to experiment in a safe way until I'm able to talk with therapist about this.

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[-] A_Very_Big_Fan@lemmy.world 9 points 9 months ago

I never really "felt like a woman" either, honestly. And most of the time I still don't.

I always thought "feeling like a woman" was something that you'd just feel all the time. I don't think that's the case, though. We're all just humans first and foremost, and that's what we should expect to feel like most of the time.

What helped me through my confusion was realizing that it's less about how you feel and more about how certain things make you feel. It's about what makes you happy and what gives you confidence. What gives me confidence is having my hair done up and wearing more feminine clothes/accessories. Or less obvious things like my handwriting being more feminine, playing as a girl in videogames, or having my bed full of Squishmallows and having more colorful blankets.

It's not a passive feeling. And I never felt that way very often because I dressed and acted the way I was raised to believe I should dress and act. So I guess my advice is to just try new things and seeing how you feel about them.

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