How old were you when you began questioning/considering you weren't "normal"?
I'm in my 30s and almost all at once feel like I'm not sure what I am in most demensions and struggling to figure out what I feel about anything. I've been married, happily for a while, which adds a little to the confusion.
I knew I was different by 10 or 11, though didn't know what it was. In high school I thought I was just gay. At 19, I came out as gay. But over time I realized I'm pansexual and aromantic.