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this post was submitted on 10 Feb 2024
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Read it fully dammit - OP outright said "Instead, it has a no tolerancy policy against transphobia, which is more clear and probably easier to enforce."
The matter here is subjectivity. What two people consider "friendly" depends on a thousand factors; and that won't change just because they're both queer.
As such, "this is queer-friendly" is a hard promise to keep. It breaks once the first queer person says "I'm queer, and I don't consider this friendly". And since queer people are individuals, they're bound to find different things "friendly".
However, once you say "no tolerance towards transphobia", the picture changes. Transphobia exists on a discursive level; it's shit that people say that denigrates trans people. And the discourse is not something inside someone's mind, it's the stuff that is shared by people, thus far more objective.
For example, if I were to utter something transphobic, I wouldn't have room to say "well, that person there is queer, and they didn't feel offended". It's transphobic so it gets the chop.
Alternatively, think on it another way. Would you rather stumble upon a community and then realise that it's friendlier than it looks like? Or one that promises something vague, that won't hold true for your personal experience? I'd probably prefer the former, and I think that most other people - including the queer ones - are the same.