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"Not reaching my potential" Fuck that line (lemmy.world)

submitted 8 months ago by Stamets@lemmy.world to c/adhd@lemmy.dbzer0.com

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[-] Clent@lemmy.world 8 points 8 months ago

Search for "adhd coping skills" and try them all until you find what works for each of you.

Since what works is different for everyone so you will both need to develop coping skills independently.

But also keep in mind that many techniques won't work for you and you need to be persistent and that doesn't come naturally with ADHD so I suggest aiming for whatever technique will help you achieve that first.

[-] wildginger@lemmy.myserv.one 6 points 8 months ago

Its also crucial, when trying to teach these methods to a child, that you frame them as multiple options that can and will fail to help, and that the failure is of the method not the child.

These techniques are akin to shoes. You go to the store to try on a bunch of different styles to see what fits, whats comfy, what looks good, and what you ultimately want to wear outdoors. You dont fail to fit a pair of shoes. They just arent your size.

Trying a bunch of coping mechanisms and skills that dont work will feel like failure if framed incorrectly, and make it harder to try the next one. Kids dont always know how to change their frame of mind around these things, so its key to help make sure they dont think of it as another test to pass or fail.