I get your point. You're saying that "subliminal" wokeness is better than "in your face" wokeness because the later messes with the core of the series.

Honestly, I agree. Unless it is a show dedicated to social issues like racism, sexism or homphobia, try to keep the wokeness subliminal. Just show that it's fine for these things to happen, that it is normal and acceptable, that it isn't a big deal. Don't make it the whole show, it's just awkward.

I prefer when they show me what reality should be like. LGBTQ people in our social groups as if nothing special was happening at all. Once it becomes preachy and brainwashy, I'm out.