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Ngl I wouldn't do that for a partner. Not a chance. I don't have family in my life. No future partners of mine will meet my family. I don't have to meet my partners' families. I wouldn't make myself miserable for two weeks minimum for any family. Not a chance I would do this. You say "when I am safe again." I wouldn't be with a partner who wanted me to feel like that for their comfort.
In this regard I am fortunate in that I am still very early in my transition, my girl voice is very bad and embarrassing, I can't really present feminine yet, I still have a very long way to go. So it's uncomfy to pretend nothing is going on, but it's not gonna really hurt me.
I don't think I'll be visiting them again after this time though.
I'm an autonomy maximalist. If you think this is right for you, do it. It's just a wild idea to me. For me, it was a door that, once opened, could not be closed.
How do I draw such a bold line in the sand as you? My pre-HRT transition so far has been full of compromises, slowing the pace, of course not starting hormones, and I'm sort of... Queermoding, like I'm visibily queer but not trying to pass, either, and going by a gender neutral name and male pronouns rather than just being honest. I'm in the east coast US, there is no safety issue. My Mom is my only family, and she accepts me, but makes me extremely miserable.