Lemmy is an special case because people here don't seem to grasp the concept of Federation, are choosing servers that aren't for them or not defederating from bad servers (not Beehaw's case) because they think federation is people putting up with their bs or that they have to put up with other people's bs.

I'm mostly talking about mastodon, all the -key(s), pixelfed, peertube, etc. They're populated by marginalized people because the big centralised alternatives promote a hostile environment for them/us.

Also the fact that your feed in Reddit had to be curated specifically to contain only queer subreddits says a lot.

In centralised social media I had to curate my feeds that way, here (fediverse) I can follow different groups and people from different servers that I know I won't encounter bad actors because they're isolated in their own instances